Would your child be able to speak to you about anything?

[Mostlysane50]

I got thinking recently as when I was a child, I was very well behaved, sensible and done well in school. Then I fell pregnant at 16 and decided to have the child. My parents were absolutely shocked and obviously disappointed by this , rightfully so.
But when I look back, they didn't know me at all and obviously you can't predict something like that but I felt like they were strangers sometimes when speaking to them.

I didn't feel comfortable to speak to them about anything going on in my life. Never had the sex talk or period talks. I learned this through life and older cousins.

I now have a daughter, she's 13 and I do believe that I know her very well. We have conversations about everything. She even tells me about her crushes at school.

Now I know she's not having sex but when she does at some point, I feel she would be able to talk to me and make more informed and sensible decisions.

My parents didn't even know I swore around my friends and not that I condone it. I know my daughter does swear with her friends. I'm pretty confident that she would come and speak to me about most things.

Am I being naieve in thinking this .?

No I don't think you are.

I know two women who have always had very open and trusting relationships with their moms, and told them everything.

My eldest tells me everything, going on 15 now, and we have a very open relationship.

But it works both ways, she trusts me to not react and to listen. She also trusts me to be entirely honest with her. I've told her stories about me as a child/teen and explained why honesty between us matters.

She also has a very honest relationship with her dad.

The day she started her period she just announced it to both of us. And still now they have a stupid game of "naming her egg" so when she is on her period she'll just say "oh my god, Issac is being so annoying today".

Bizarre, but it works.