SNORING HUSBAND

[wishthiswasreallife]

Help...I'm so tired 😪

My husband snores so badly, it's so loud and if I get to sleep before him it wakes me up. We both work full time and I'm exhausted as I'm not getting to sleep in my bed I end up having to sleep on the sofa for any chance of sleep.

If your bed partner snores what is your solution to sleep but not have to sleep elsewhere? I mean proper tried and tested industrial noise cancelling ear plugs ANYTHING!! I will spend money (his) to get me a good sleep I'm so tired 😭

Link to these please ? I sleep with a dreadful snorer.

You can buy those silicone earplugs in Home bargains. I use those.

I could go on and on on this subject - as I’ve posted and whinged many times. My DH and I have nearly separated about this - not just for the snoring, but the lack of empathy, arrogant attitude and ‘if I’m not doing it deliberately then you can’t take umbrage’ approach. Thankfully things have improved.

I just wanted to draw attention to the latest foray my Michael Mosley. Apparently he has an imminent book coming out relating to sleep, and on the TV the other day he said, basically, there is only ONE cure to snoring (surgeries and remedies just don’t work) and the cure is losing weight - and he explained why, the physiology of it. I’m sure as there is a book he’ll be popping up all over with this repeatedly. He did demonstrate a device, with some tongue in cheek comments, which looked like a cat collar but delivered a shock when the wearer turned on their back. But he said again the only remedy is loosing weight.

my DH is now in the spare room and the choice is his - shift that last stone or stay there. I honestly don’t mind which he does - it’s totally his choice. I would never comment on his weight for any other reason, that’s his business, but the sleep deprivation which impacts me directly is too much.

My husband started snoring, it kept me awake so I started waking him up, every single time. Didn't see why I should be awake and him asleep.

He soon got himself a mouth guard and some nasal strips.

My husband has started to snore. It’s just an age thing - he is 48. My body has changed a lot now I am menopausal and so has his.
I use these ear plugs and they work really well. I can still hear my alarm clock in the morning and other sounds but it helps me to just focus in on the sound of my breathing and I don’t hear any snoring at all.
I take time to put them in properly. I pull my ear up and back to straighten out the ear canal. Then I roll the ear plugs small and put them deep in my ear. I keep my finger on the end for 30 seconds whilst they expand in my ear canal.
I am not sure how often you are supposed to change them (it’s probably every day but that seems wasteful) so I keep them in for about a week and have had no problems.
I feel so much better now I am not woken up by snoring. Sadly the menopause means I wake up through the night, but I can get back to sleep okay.

Bought this.

GAME CHANGER!!!

No more snoring!

Have now bought loads - to keep in camper van, overnight van

PHCOMRICH Anti Snoring Device... https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B081TWJGQQ?ref=ppxpoppmobappshare

@LoveRules this looks torturous. Do you wear it or your partner ? Interesting to know if comfy

Second Bose Sleep buds but they were £250 and not sure they are still for sale although there will be similar around

I use the same earplugs as @ThursdayTomorrow but mostly we sleep in separate rooms.
DH knows he's overweight and half heartedly tries occasionally to do something. I wish he'd try harder.

I feel your pain. Over the years I think I have tried just about every type of earplug on the planet. Nothing helped. I ended up using the Howard Leight type shoved in as far as possible and wearing sleepphones tight against my ears playing white/pink/brown noise. But that's hot and not very comfortable and makes my ears itch.

Separate rooms works for us. But that's not practical if we have visitors or are away.

BUT for Christmas I was given a three-size pack of Happy Ears. I thought at first they were no better than any other ear plug, which the reviews suggest that is the case for many. I nearly gave up, but I persevered and, after a lot of tweaking and pushing and trying different angles, I found that the best-sized ones would slide in quite easily, at an unexpected angle, quite deep into the ear canal and somehow seal. RESULT! Although I can still just hear the alarm, anything I do hear seems very far off and not at all annoying or disturbing. And they are comfortable. And not difficult to get out if I don't panic. It reminded me of learning to use tampons and discovering that once they are in properly they can't be felt, but are not doing harm.

I have no suggestions that have not already been mentioned @wishthiswasreallife I do feel your pain though. When me and DH met in our mid 20s, and moved in together about a year later, he didn't snore, but about 10 years later his snoring became horrific. About 12-13 years ago, we moved into a house that had a spare bedroom for us, and I have had my own room from that day. (For the 10 years or so in between I had a hell of a job trying to sleep, and spent much time on the sofa.)

I'm not sure I could have stayed with him if that had not happened. I could not have carried on sleeping with him indefinitely, and no way was I spending my life sleeping on the sofa. (HE wouldn't as he claimed he was 'too tall.')

I don't understand how couples can sleep together indefinitely, and I think it's untenable for a couple to sleep together in a 4' X 6' bed forever. Not only the snoring issue, but the farting, the coughing, the grunting, them flinging their limbs around, the pulling the duvet off you, and them just being there.

It's all lovely and snuggly when you're a young couple in the first flush of romance, but after a few years, sleeping with someone just becomes a chore.

Even with a King, or super king bed or whatever it is people suggest, you can still hear the snoring, and smell their farts, and hear the muttering and mumbling and coughing!

If me and DH split I could never/WOULD never sleep with anyone else again, ever. I can't imagine even being arsed with anyone tbh, and would very likely stay single.

As pps have suggested, earplugs, or a sofa bed for the lounge - for HIM.

Get him to the sleep clinic. Mine uses a Cpap machine now and is silent. Bliss!

I wear the silicone device and it's actually very comfy after you get used to the weirdness. I sleep really well with it in and love that I don't have to be self conscious about snoring. My partner is pleased he doesn't have to listen to white noise in his AirPods all night.

Oh my god OP I was woken last night by DP!!

I cannot sleep without earplugs. I either use soft foam ones, recently got some LOOP ones and at one point even had some CUSTOM MADE BY A SOUND ENGINEER!!! despite being heinously expensive they hurt my ears though so I couldn't wear them.

DP is much better when he doesn't drink, he did Dry January and it was a much more peaceful time.

Sympathies, truly.

Could you please share which exact brand? I've been wearing ear plugs for 20 years and am on a constant quest for the perfect ones!

mykittensmittens my snoring DH is already slim as anything, he has no weight to lose!

I use the same earplugs as @ThursdayTomorrow and have done for at least 15 years. They are also really good for when teenagers decide to cook pasta at 2am! There are videos on YouTube on how to fit them properly and I re-use them for up to 5 days to make it less wasteful.

These type of headphones are the only things that block out my DH snoring. We'd have divorced long ago if I didn't have them.

ZGZ Sleep Headphones Bluetooth Headband, Wireless Sports Headphones with Ultra Thin and Soft Sponge Stereo Speakers Headphone Headband for Sleeping, Travel, Running, Meditating (Grey)

Brand: ZGZ

My dh has started snoring over the last year...and he is not overweight at all ( sporty and thin as a whippet!) He's just getting older.
I wear silicone earplugs, a pillow over my head and frequently jab him in the ribs to roll him over.
I can see separate rooms in our future tho .. I need total silence to sleep and the menopause means I don't sleep well and my rage is murderous!

I used to struggle with the same issue until I stumbled upon something that worked wonders for us.

One day, after endless nights of disrupted sleep, I decided to do some research. I came across this amazing snoring treatment in Singapore - drlesliekoh.com.sg/services/snoring-sleep-apnea/ . We booked a consultation with the specialist, Dr. Leslie Koh, who was incredibly knowledgeable and empathetic.

After a thorough assessment, Dr. Koh recommended a personalized treatment plan tailored to my husband's needs. It wasn't an overnight fix, but with patience and consistency, we started noticing significant improvements. Fast forward to today, and I can finally say goodbye to those sleepless nights on the sofa.

Before we had a spare room I used ear plugs but not the foam type that we're next to useless.

They were a wax kind that moulded to your inner ear..

I'll tell you my solution but it won't help you.. I wear hearing aids and my biggest joy is taking them off and not hearing him snore. It's bliss and I think id be divorced otherwise. Sorry no help at all.