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How do you prepare for a stressful week ahead whilst staying calm?!

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Cloud44 · 04/02/2024 15:21

When you know you’ve got a stressful week ahead how do you stay calm and take it in your stride?!

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eggbot · 05/02/2024 06:29

Light a candle. Get some herbal tea in.

NCgoingdry · 05/02/2024 06:32

Depends what kind of stress to be honest.

Work wise - compartmentalise what I can actually physically prepare for and what is out of my control.

Explore each outcome so I'm mentally prepared for whatever happens.

Acceptance - it is what it is.

A few self care options for when it's all happening, a nice dinner prepared for, bath, a good book, face mask etc.

Then a mindset of - on x date, it'll all be over.

Plan some downtime in between.

stopmefeelingsick · 05/02/2024 06:47

@NCgoingdry thank you. I've also got a lot going on and that's really helpful advice

Iamnocook · 05/02/2024 06:50

I tend to take it day by day.
Get through day 1 before thinking about day 2.
Doing that stops me thinking of it as one huge block of stress and catastrophizing.
Prioritise sleep, decent food, plenty of water

theduchessofspork · 05/02/2024 06:55

I’m assuming you’ve basically got a lot to do?

Write down the outcomes you want for the week - it’s all about outcomes

Write a list
At the top of the list write:

  • done is better than perfect
  • prioritise, delegate, dump

then a list of what you think you need to do/get other people to do to reach your outcomes

Then turn it into a schedule Mon-Thurs. leave Friday for overruns if possible. Be realistic about time - base allocated task time on how long it too last time. As part of your schedule include buffer periods between focus work, downtime and whatever will make you feel supported - don’t isolate yourself.

If you can’t fit all the to dos on there - some of it has to go. Delegate or dump or renegotiate deadlines.

Now you have a working schedule, look at it again. Is there anything else you can delegate?

Once you’ve done that, go through and make a note on what job this piece of work has to do, and from there, what really needs doing, and what standard it has to be - it’s very easy to slip into doing everything 9/10 when for half of it 5/10 will do.

For any one difficult tasks (emotionally or cognitively) break them down into small parts to be less threatening. If you have to have a tricky conversation about something, have a Google to remind yourself of techniques of how to do that.

Make a note of when you need to check in with other people on their progress. (Sooner rather than later is the rule)

Then review and adjust every morning, be really ruthless about pushing or renegotiating deadlines for stuff if the one key thing you need to do isn’t getting done. Don’t be shy of going to talk to your boss if you have a problem or need advice. People like communication.

Make time to do something for yourself at the beginning and the end of each day. Give yourself a Pat on the back when things get done. Comfort yourself when something goes wrong. Be your own best mate.

Generally I find using the Pomodoro technique - 25 mins work / 5 min break - repeat 3 times then a longer break - keeps me moving along.

If you have a tendency to freeze under pressure, the technique of rotating tasks, and reducing it to 5 mins blocks if you are completely stuck is helpful.

Box breathing or the 3 minute breathing technique are both good for managing moments of panic. As is reminding yourself that your primal brain can’t tell the different between a looming deadline and a tiger so the terror you are feeling isn’t actually real.

ArticWillow · 05/02/2024 06:55

To do list - so everything gets done & things that can be left are identified.

Prep as much as possible, eg dinner.

Go bed early, no screen in bedroom... a good night's sleep is essential!

NCgoingdry · 05/02/2024 07:07

@stopmefeelingsick Most welcome. Now all I need to do is take my own advice 😂

ChipsAreLife · 05/02/2024 07:10

Tell myself 'you've had weeks that felt like this before and got through it. You'll get through this one too'

Mydustymonstera · 05/02/2024 07:18

@theduchessofspork that is great advice! Saving that. Thank you.

theduchessofspork · 05/02/2024 08:16

Mydustymonstera · 05/02/2024 07:18

@theduchessofspork that is great advice! Saving that. Thank you.

Welcome. It really does make a difference WHEN I do it. I do need to remind myself regularly. I am slightly envious of the PP that just lights a candle though..

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