Hi
I left a DA situation last year. I didn't have evidence as he kept everything. I ended up being too scared to fight up so we essentially have 50/50, I have the kids a bit more than that.
He won't follow our CAO. His response is always to start throwing out accusations or to turn up at my bosses with my belongings smashed. Lots of nasty messages but "within the law".
CPS finally investigating as kids had bruising, though sounds like it will all be covered up. He was also allowing predators around our children, but again it's been covered up.
Every week I get messages about how I'm a bad mother. He uses Miss X and sends exclamation marks, says how I'm abusing the kids because I won't give him things for them (but it's shared care, he doesnt pay CMS, he pays nothing towards our kids). He's now sent me a list again, claiming I've stolen his belongings. I haven't. I've stated 3 times now that I do not have them. And things I do have, I return.
He's now saying the kids are constantly crying because I abuse them, because I won't give him things for them.
They're honestly not nice messages and are meant to affect my mental health/depression. When we lived together, him and his friends would often tell me in far nastier words, how I was a bad mother and I should unalive myself. Everything I did was wrong. I was there to clean his house and if I tried to say no to sex, there would be banging and shouting and "f sake, what do I have you here for, then?"
But he also wouldn't let me leave back to my families, either.. he constantly told me if I did, he would be taking the children, he would get full custody etc. our of fear, my choice was to stay for years.
I don't know how to keep responding to his stories. I've got nearly £900 of receipts now, since September, where he is continuing financial abuse. He's finally admitted he had all our cutlery (children's cutlery was going missing from lunch boxes, I had to repurchase) and the missing school uniforms - but only so he can claim I have his. Except I don't. I repurchased. Again, and again, and again.
I don't want to send him receipts. I had to do this when we lived together - not often, just sometimes. I don't see why I need to prove to him I provide for our children. He didn't even buy their lunch boxes etc.
How do I reply or deal with the constant made up stories? I've tried telling social services, that he's intentionally fabricating stories to affect my MH and parenting of the kids (it's always just before handover). They just said "call the police" (it's not nasty enough for police to care, idk, they are degrading me as a parent but he's not stupid enough to put in writing "unalive yourself") or contact my domestic abuse worker.
I've already told him I don't have his stuff and won't respond to consistant false allegations. His response is essentially (again) that I don't care about our kids and am abusive.
Idk what to do anymore.