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So worried, I can't sleep.

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filthypride · 03/02/2024 03:29

My son (25) had been unwell for 3 days (started last Friday) with what he describes as 'THE WORST PAIN OF HIS LIFE'. It started as a normal headache but suddenly progressed into something a lot more painful. On Monday (which would have been the 3 days) he was at work and the pain in his head was causing him to shake, felt dizzy, off balance, nauseous, achy... so he called 111 who sent out an ambulance. The paramedics did his vitals and told him just to take paracetamol/ibuprofen (which he'd already been doing). I picked him up from work as he was unable to drive and he went straight to bed. During him sleeping I still woke him to give him pain meds.

Anyway...at midnight the pain was 'killing him' so I called out the ambulance again because he was talking nonsense and now deaf in his right ear. Many hours later they turned up and did vitals and again told him to take painkiller as he just had a virus that's doing the rounds. He went to bed and managed to get a few hours before the pain kicked in again.

Wednesday morning at 3am I heard loud groaning from his room, he was almost crying saying he couldn't cope anymore, it was so bad, the light off the landing was even hurting his eyes/head. He was talking gibberish and he managed to get out 'I feel sick' I told him to go to the loo if he was going to vomit but he mumbled he was okay. I turned my back and he staggered past me and was so violently sick.

Now I was even more worried as we had another symptom to add to the mix. I called 999 again and they said it was a 10 hour wait. He couldn't wait 10 hours. They said someone would call soon. I get that call and asked if I could take him (I don't drive and we're not local to a hospital) then they asked if he could drive.... the poor kid can't frigging walk or open his eyes.....

An hour or so later I get ANOTHER call.. this time he was a little more understanding and after 30 mins of talking he said that he definitely needed an ambulance. Thank god this time they took him.

My son since he's been in hospital has had a CT, MRI and a lumber puncture. He has a swollen brain, possibly meningitis (but doing further analysis on his spinal fluid), he's on a concoction of about 3 different antibiotics and constant pain relief.

I am so pissed off with the paramedics who said he was 'fine' and to take paracetamol. He looked like death each time he was seen, but because his vitals were okay, they deemed him fine. He could have been dead if left any longer without medical intervention.

He is still completely deaf in his ear, dizzy, disoriented, head pain now is about a consistent 4 out of 10 rather than off the scale....

I hate seeing him sick, he's never ill. He suffers with mental health issues too so he's not dealing with this very well. He's currently in a ward with the elderly and they tend to shout all night meaning he's not sleeping at all and right now he needs all the rest he can possibly get.

He won't be out any time soon and I am worried about the impact all this is having on him not to mention the fact he is really unwell.

I am a single mum and his dad refuses to talk to me since he got remarried. I can't even call/text him to discuss our son.

I just wish I could make him better...

Any words of advice would be amazing.

x

OP posts:
magicscares · 03/02/2024 03:34

This sounds incredibly stressful @filthypride. You’ve done all that you can & he’s now in the right place.
no advice but a hand hold & recognition of all the stress you are holding.
wishing your son well x

StopGo · 03/02/2024 03:34

No advice just a virtual handhold. If you can and if your son would like his dad to know I'd send a short message just informing him.

Fluffywhitecloudsinthesky · 03/02/2024 03:35

This sounds so stressful OP, be kind to yourself. He is in the right place and I hope he gets better soon x

onlymyselftoanswerto1 · 03/02/2024 03:36

No advice, just sending an unmumsnetty hug. That sounds so scary and I'm glad you were eventually taken seriously. I hope he makes a full recovery very soon

Northernsouloldies · 03/02/2024 04:06

Bloody hell no one should have to through that, well done for fighting his corner.
Now that he's getting treated hopefully it leads to recovery.

IwishIdidntlikesugar · 03/02/2024 04:18

Is there a way to complain about the past suggestions by paramedics? I am fed up of medical people brushing ill people off.
write/call/text his dad and tell him. He sounds like an idiot but it may jolt him into reality. Do you have any other family or friends to talk to just to take some comfort from? Is there any way you can get some noise cancelling headphones for your son in hospital? I know they can be expensive but they will block out lots of the noise.

Musntapplecrumble · 03/02/2024 04:19

Bless you, he's in the right place now, hope he's OK 🙏

Nazzywish · 03/02/2024 05:36

OP you've every right go be angry at the missed opportunity for him to get help earlier but just for now let that go because there's to many plates spinning..focus on the fact that he is now at least where he needs to be and put your energy into advocating for him there where needed. Be at the hospital at much as you can and that's all you can do at the moment but by being there it matters alot and helps him out. Hang in there and really hoping he gets better soon.

Popcorn23 · 03/02/2024 05:41

That's so awful to hear. You did all the right things. It's terrible that your son wasn't taken to hospital the first time the ambulance were called but at least he is getting 24 hour care in the hospital now. I really hope he recovers soon.

Kazzy50 · 04/02/2024 10:12

That's terrible. Those paramedics should have taken your son straight to hospital. If someone describes a headache as the worst pain ever then that is a red flag as that could mean all manner of things some extremely serious! I only know this because I've worked as a nurse for 20 years. I hope your son feels better soon x

RenovationRenovationRenovation · 04/02/2024 10:16

Definitely complain immediately. Is it PALS you go to first? Make sure the treatment he gets from now is the best.

This happens all too often and they can’t get away with it.

Pigeonqueen · 04/02/2024 10:20

Definitely complain. PALs to begin with and 111 / ambulance service for your local area. I’m in mutiple health groups (I have complex health issues) and people wouldn’t believe the amount of times things like this happen. So sorry about your son.

RedDoughnut · 04/02/2024 11:11

@filthypride How is he now?

Goldenbrowntexturelikesun · 04/02/2024 11:21

I’m so sorry you have both been through the mill.
Accounts of people struggling for help from our broken health service are becoming so frequent now, it’s getting so very frightening.
How is he doing this morning op?

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