I am mum to two gorgeous DCs, 5 and 1. Oldest hit all of his milestones on time or early, and had me giving him 100% of my attention for the first year. With the youngest, shes quite advanced socially (waving and copying movements from quite early) but behind on walking and speech. I ended mat leave at 9 months with her. I wished I could have taken more but we just couldn’t make it work financially.
They are my world but there’s no doubt that DD doesn’t get nearly the attention DS did. She is a happy chill baby and I know she is progressing at her own speed and has her own abilities, and that comparison is the thief of joy! But I feel guilty that I don’t give her the same attention and worry if I could give her more she’d be more caught up, ie with her speech.
Is this a common sort of guilt or am I overreacting? I do my best to give them both my attention but DS can take up more space and gets quite cheeky when he’s jealous and it feels sometimes like DD is just along for the ride and I feel awful about that.