How would you react if

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Your 22 yo son announced he was going to marry a 40 yo woman who has 4 children already?

This has happened to my friend. She's not handling it particularly well, but if I'm honest, I doubt I would either.

I would not be happy and be having long 'discussions' with him.
Ultimately though, he's legally an adult so his choice.

I'd try and steer them away from the insanity, but he's an adult so if he wants to ruin his life, he's able to do so.

I would be talking to him about the bigger picture. Such as the ages of the children. Is the father of the children around, contributing etc.. If involving more than one father, that would be something else. But ultimately there is nothing that the friend can really do about it

I'd probably suggest delaying marriage and trying out living together first. He might not find living with someone else's 4 kids as fun as he imagines.

Oof, tricky one as she'll need to be careful not to drive him away.

Support, support, support. But privately very worried and focused on keeping lines of communication open.

I'd be gutted but I'd assume it was not going to last...my only hope would be that they don't have any children together before it's all over

Mortified.

I would be deeply concerned about the stability of a woman who at 40 wants to marry someone the same age as her kids. To be honest there's obviously something wrong with her and her life choices and she could also be very manipulative. Child number 5 is already in her sights I expect.

All the mother can do is keep lines of communication open and pray it all ends in tears without a pregnancy.