How much do you enjoy time on your own?

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Personally I really love spending time alone, I do have a husband who I live with but he is generally out at work most days 8 - 6pm and I rarely see or talk to anyone in that time and I bloody love it!

I'm an only. Parents both onlys!

Strong culture of 'learn to love being on your own' growing up in my house 😅

I love it. I always looked forward to having the house to myself when DC and DH were working or away, but at he back of my mind I thought that was because it was a novelty and because I had the privilege of usually having people around me.

Now I'm a widow and DC are adults, I still love having the house to myself and get a real peace from setting off on adventure on my own.

I have discovered I like people more than I thought I did and make big efforts to see people and arrange social things too, but I still love being alone.

I love it but I also love people snd company.

Strangely enough, I don't love people in my house as much I love going out yo meet them in a restaurant or pub etc.

It's like home is calm and outside is fun.

I did a lot of socialising the last 2 weeks so doing absolutely nothing but me time this weekend. (Boyfriend being the only exception - he already knows I need tonight and tomorrow day to myself for the sake of balance. We've been together 2 years and he is all for moving in together- I would love to but would really miss my complete alone time)

Agree with others...its my default happy state. I can go days without speaking to anyone at all (and I mean literally, living alone and wfh) and it doesn't really bother me.
Saying that I enjoy socialising as well ironically I'm always described as very friendly.

Needing time alone to recharge your energy vs getting energy from being around others makes much more sense to me as the definition for introversion/extraversion than the old stereotypes of quiet/shy vs loud/friendly.

@ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees It's like home is calm and outside is fun I feel like this, I like to go out to work a couple of times a week, out for social reasons a couple of times a week, don't even mind the odd person popping in every couple of weeks, but then being at home, in the quiet, kids either out or asleep is just lovely.

I am very like this too. When I had a partner I enjoyed time alone to potter, do my own thing etc. but I enjoyed it knowing I had him to come back and spend time with in the evening etc. now that I am single again I have too much time alone and I struggle to enjoy it. I force myself to do solo activities and have travelled alone but really I prefer doing things with other people.

Enormously. If you can't enjoy your own company, how you expect anyone else to?

I need time on my own a lot, or with company that expects nothing of me (e.g. watching a tv show with DH, sitting with DD while she naps, or in the past being with my cat was good). I don’t actually like to live alone though, having tried it. I’m happy working from home in peace and then spending time with DD and DH, then having more peace when DD is in bed. I just booked my birthday off work, was going to do something with DH but he can’t get it off. I’m happy enough to just read a book, go for a walk, play a computer game, watch some tv, maybe do some baking etc on my own that day.

Used to love it when I was with my first husband as he was quite ill for a number of years and I needed space. Then he died and my kids left home and I hated it. Met my now husband 6 years later and realised I had developed a real anxious attachment feeling. I think fear of being abandoned again. I'm now retired as is he and I'm starting to crave a little time to myself now and again

Yes it's good to see people recognise this. You often see people saying they LOVED being "left alone" or "not socialising" during lockdown without recognising that living with a partner or children wasn't exactly the same as living completely alone, working from home etc. In Wales (where I lived during the 1st lockdown) "bubbles" for single people weren't allowed until October 2020...I'm an introvert but even I found being COMPLETELY alone, without even exchanging short face to face pleasantries with e.g. acquaintances at the gym or colleagues at work, for several months, very hard.

Yes, Covid was a hell of a lot easier once I was able to bubble with friends. But if I’d had someone else locked down in the flat with me I think it would have been a million times worse.

Yes! This is me too ❤️💪

I used to love time alone but after having a baby whenever I have time alone now I sort of freeze up, like what do I do.

I still love having the house to myself and can get loads done, but I think I miss allowing myself to just chill and watch Netflix - whereas now I’ll try an blitz the house/washing etc.

Love it too ... DH and I are both retired but I just love the days/nights he's out ... feel mean saying it and I don't really know why I can't be equally relaxed when he's around ... we have a fairly big house and separate bedrooms so plenty of 'space' but I just love being alone. DH already got four holidays planned (without me) & I couldn't be happier! Also planning my own solo holiday.

I need a lot of time alone to recharge but I think my preference is sort of “alone together” - growing up we’d spend our time at home everyone doing their own thing and in separate rooms/the garden so not actually interacting but not truly alone. I have lived alone and I can find other people/relationships difficult (except a special few). I loved having so much time to myself but ultimately am happiest living with fellow introverts. Also I really hate being entirely responsible for cooking/cleaning/admin/maintenance/generally being a grown up so happy to have DH to share the load!

I wish I got time alone but as a lone parent I never do, people keep telling me how lucky I am though 😏

@Rivieranights yes it was lovely having a few hours to myself but knowing that a person would be in later. It's hard being alone when you are not a 'love being alone' person.

Is it just me, but women seem to enjoy much more time alone than men. There definitely seems to be more female lone wolves!

I love it. I do have 3 kids, but I have always relished time alone; to do stuff without time pressures or explaining something to someone it is so freeing.
My big sister and one of my best friends are complete social butterflies and relish every moment spent with other people especially in groups, but it exhausts me to a teet. I love being able to move through the day and the world without being hindered by the thought police.

At the moment my only time alone is driving to work and back.

Fucking love it

I'm comfy with own company but definitely can have too much. I much prefer someone to chat to about my day.

I go everywhere alone. Shopping. To eat out. To the cinema. On day trips away. The theatre.

if I wait for someone else to be free to join me, I’d never go anywhere

I enjoy it much more the older I get (I'm 60). I really enjoy spending time with my friends and family,but I can only do it for a few hours a couple of times a week. I find my brain gets frazzled otherwise. I live alone (apart from my cat) so I get plenty of opportunity to have time alone.

I get one day a week in the house by myself when the children are at school and dh goes into the office and I LOVE IT. Don't get bored, enjoy the silence, please myself all day and have a wee nap. Bliss

I love it. I wfh and my dh works shifts so I spend a lot of time alone. I have hobbies and enjoy spending time with my dh and my friends but not all the time. I love my alone time