Have you ever met someone who disagrees with you constantly?

[foreverwhateva]

I’m not someone who airs my political or religious views etc. But I’ve recently come across someone (a work colleague) who seems to disagrees with me just for the sake of it.

For example, she said she was a confident driver and I said “I am too, but all it takes is one idiot driver to cause an accident” - which seemed to make her defensive and reply “yes well I spot all idiot drivers and I just avoid them”

There’s loads of examples but obviously I don’t want to bore you. I just find it bizarre that I can make a throwaway comment that isn’t critical of her but she seems to get defensive and argumentative.

There are a few like that on MN!

They're just argumentative twunts thats all.

Have some fun with it. Do it back to her.

Oh yes! one woman I worked with recently would say black was white almost for the fun of it. You could not say anything at all to her without her disagreeing.

Utterly tedious

Oh my word, she sounds tiresome. You need a stock of phrases to dip into. How about:

"That's nice."
"Yeah, I guessed you'd say that."
"Of course."
"I'm sure you're right, you usually are."
"Well done."
"Really."
"Oh well if you say so."

Just pick one at random every morning, and see how long it takes before you need to use it. You could keep a tally. 😂

My sister has always been like this, growing up I never felt good enough as she undermined me constantly. I rarely speak to her now as she'll never change. She's not like this with anyone else as far as I'm aware though 🤷🏻‍♀️

A guy I loved with first year uni. We could argue over ANYTHING. Interestingly all our flat mates thought it was sexual tension. It wasn't. We were both in long term relationships.

Bizarrely o had a good friend who got on with him SO well and neither he nor I understood how she was friends with us both. She married him in the end, which made me think more of him

I know someone like that. She is constantly poised to correct or disagree. I love it when it's a subject she knows nothing about so I can just talk in peace, though I can see she is desperate to jump in. Unsolicited advice is a big feature as well, along with the phrase 'I'm going to have to challenge you on that'. It wouldn't be so bad but sometimes she is patronising and scoffs about stuff that I have a lot of knowledge on.

No advice as I don't actually know how to deal with it sensitively. Mine is a friend, who is a good friend in many ways, but her behaviour is off-putting.