Have nightmares about my wedding day

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I got married a couple of years ago. Sometimes I have a bad dream about my wedding day, specifically my dress. I wake up, like today and start obsessing over photos!

Been with DH years and love him to bits so it's not that I regret marrying him. I had a big wedding and I feel like my dress was so unflattering! I don't have a photo of me in full dress as I was always clutching my flowers to cover my belly.

I'm not even heavy, I was a size 8! It just didn't do anything for me. It was baggy under my boobs too.

Thing is, when I watch the video of the day, I think I look good and on the day itself I felt good. So, when I get into a rut I normally watch the video.

Anyway, first world problems, hoping in years my memory fades a bit! It's a first world problem I know.

You need to see a therapist / counselor and talk this one through. This is really not healthy to obsess like this and it sounds like it is affecting you hugely.

Ah yeah it's upsetting when big things like weddings don't turn out "perfectly". But I'm sure you looked beautiful!
I think you can overcome this by shifting your focus from the past to the future. Maybe set yourself a target to not look at anything wedding related for a year. Then also try to focus on something happening in the future. Like an upcoming event, a project, or a goal you want to achieve. Then every time you think of your wedding/the dress, you can focus on that instead.
I'm sure the memory will fade. Similarly, I chose a wedding dress in a rush and didn't really think about what would be most flattering for me, just that the dress itself was stunning (on the hanger!). I don't feel as strongly about it as you do, but I can somewhat understand. I've been married for nearly 7 years now, and after the pandemic and two kids, house moves etc. I can honestly say it's not something that ever crossed my mind in a normal day!
Hope you find peace with it soon 💐

Yes, I know its not normal for me to be so hung up about it. I'm not sure I need counselling though.

Thanks, that's a good idea. I do try and avoid the photos and then when someone shares one on their social media like happy anniversary or something I like tense up it's so strange 😆 I really struggle with the fact I can't go back and change it! However, I know that's why I shouldn't be hung up on it.

You picked your dress and it reflected your style at that point in time. I'd never pick my dress out now, 13 years later. My style and taste has totally changed. But it doesn't bother me as it was "me" at the time. Try to move on.

Thanks @Scottishgirl85 you're right. I live 5min from where I got the dress and I'm going to stop walking by the shop because I always see something beautiful in the window and think OH YOU COULD HAVE WORN THAT 🤣 it's like bloody torturing myself lol