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The only things I do in life is work, eat & sleep…

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RoutineRoutine · 29/01/2024 15:10

I’m 27. I have no friends outside of my own family, and some work colleagues that I occasionally speak to outside of hours. The people I’ve spoken to in the last 3 days have been my immediate family and colleagues. That’s it.

I’m single, have been for a long time. When I was younger, men only seemed to want to know me to get closer to my friends at the time, or even my sisters! I would say I’m average looking, nothing too special but nothing too horrible either. I’m very social when I get the chance to, very bubbly and I’ve been told I’m very funny and very kind. No one wants to stick around though, it seems. I used to stupidly try to keep dying conversations alive so it’s not lack of effort on my part, I just seem to be very forgettable?

I have zero hobbies too. I go to work, walk the dog, make dinner, watch tv and go to bed. Every day. I’m just not interested in anything outside of what I have to do, and I don’t find joy in much. I’m a very boring person. I go out on occasion, I’ll bring my nieces & nephews off for fun days, and sometimes go to parties my sister is throwing where I meet loads of people. She’s very social, so she constantly has new people around. That gene seemed to have skipped me.

AIBU to think this is just it for me? I feel that unless I completely change my personality (introverted, no-fuss, “boring”), then life will just continue to go on without me.

OP posts:
SecondUsername4me · 29/01/2024 21:10

There are holiday companies who specialise in taking groups of individuals away, so no one really knows anyone. Could you look into something like that?

Wisterical · 29/01/2024 21:49

But this is your life, your one and only life - why have you settled for so little?

SecondUsername4me · 29/01/2024 22:07

Wisterical · 29/01/2024 21:49

But this is your life, your one and only life - why have you settled for so little?

Because some people are very happy with contentment and that's fine

howrudeforme · 29/01/2024 22:24

@SecondUsername4me - very true.

my ex mil is Italian - southern Italy remote area.. peasants really and poor. She had my ex-h at 16 years old and was married. Horrible husband, a cleaner, two kids. Worked night and day. Her pleasure comes from church and ‘sacrifice’. Not my thing but she is happy.

We’d moan to her about our problems here ie work progression, bigger property. We were tired and wanted more down time. She couldn’t understand it because she we were fine ie solvent, roof over our heads etc. she thought we were living life of royalty.

she has always been content with her lot. Her faith gives her pleasure.

I have enormous respect for her.

im a bit like OP and I do worry that I’m storing up problems. Padel tennis makes me happy and healthy. Go, play, quick chat with people and off home.quite alone but feel comfortable with it. WFH as well.

OP- best of luck finding your equilibrium.

Fucketyfecketyfoo · 30/01/2024 10:16

It feels like you have settled and you are far too young for that. You need to shake things up a bit and develop the mindset that you can have a more exciting life. I don’t think you are content at the moment and I am not sure why you have decided that’s it at 27.

Friend of a friend decided to do a tinder date twice a month for a year to make friends. It’s worked well. She got out and about, brushed up on her social skills and got a boost from the likes. You could get a weekend job in a lively bar where you would likely meet other YOUNG people and develop friendships and a social life from there.

Coyoacan · 30/01/2024 12:03

Because some people are very happy with contentment and that's fine

Except that the OP would not have posted here if she were content.

We all have different tastes. I recommended horse-riding another poster recommended working in a bar and yet another singles' holidays. It is hard to say what the OP would like, but I know that I only started worrying about job security after I had a child who depended on me and it seems sad that the OP is not taking advantage of the freedom she has at the moment.

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