Sensory disorder- clothing

[adviceonchildplease]

I posted elsewhere but received no replies.

My daughter is 6. Recently she has become extremely fussy with what she will wear, mostly underwear. She refuses to wear it almost.
We have tried different kinds but she just doesn't like how it feels when she then puts leggings on top. She will wear it to school but then takes it straight off after. She will wear pants if she's just wearing a skirt, no problem. But it's too cold just not to not wear leggings or tights so every morning is a fight. Socks are also an issue, she has a certain pair that she will wear and that's it.

Does anyone know of any underwear that would be helpful, seamless, maybe that might help? Or any other advice. Thank you.

I buy m&s pants. Always go inshore to choose ones with no elastic exposed so soft seats.

Socks I get seamless bamboo from sockshop

Don't even bother trying tights!

Go for long socks and skirt if she's not comfortable in leggings/tights. Tell her to tell you if she's cold and wants to try them again.

My dm was always convinced I would be cold. I was the child in a summer dress with a polo-necked shirt underneath it. I was too hot and hate polo-necks now.

Find her a type of socks she'll wear (search seamless socks, and don't get any with different colours because my dd will tell you even looking at that itches) and just buy lots like that.

My ds wears shorts and short socks all year round out of choice. He's 16yo and, at times has been the only one at school in shorts but he's comfortable.

You may find shorts type pants from M&S more comfortable DD1 who can be a bit fussy about clothing started using those at about that age because she found the elastic round the legs irritating.

Agree bamboo from sockshop, they're 5 for £4.99 and a life changer. Pants wise my dd hates any that have the stupid bows girls pants seem to have so as long as we avoid those she's fine, but agree that M&S are great for adaptive clothing.

My ASD DD at secondary school still wears skirts and long socks as she hates tights! Also wears seamless shorts style knickers....
And turns any socks with patterns inside out because she can't stand the mixed threads 🙂

I got seamless socks from M&S which helped my DD

Until you can get the recommended socks, have you tried them inside out?

Thank you for your replies. We have one pair of socks that she will wear and have bought loads of pairs. But I've never tried turning them inside out. That's a good idea thank you.
I'll have a look at M&S for pants, that's the issue we are having the most just now.

It's just far too cold just now to wear only skirt pants and long socks, we have tried that, and I've put leggings in her bag for her to wear if she gets cold, but she comes out shivering. Don't know what to do.

I have a boy . I used to get seamless boxers from Primark - don’t know if they even still make them or do them for girls but worth a look

Does she need to wear pants with leggings if she wears leggings which are thick and cotton? I know lots of people who wear leggings for sports don’t wear underwear with them. I personally do but could it be an option

Could she wear trousers instead? The extra pressure.of the.leggings with the pants will be too constricting, but looser trousers may be fine? We used to use jersey school trousers for school when needed as these were the only ones that felt okay....

Have you tried cutting all the labels out, turning everything inside out etc?

I'd go for the long socks option if she won't wear leggings/tights, it's better than nothing isn't it.

If she is wearing cotton leggings and tights she'll
most likely be ok without underwear.

Try looser clothing like trousers, a friend's child does much better in looser clothes.

The thing is - as the proud owner of many sensory issues - you will never win this. The best you might do is force her to be uncomfortable, but she's not doing it on purpose and practicality isn't factoring in for her, it's beyond being uncomfortable. If you have sensory issues and those are triggered it has such a profound impact it's almost indescribable and really affects your ability to function.

My son who has ASD/multiple other issues has lots of sensory issues - he’s now 17. He will only wear soft joggers and T-shirts, he hates wearing hoodies/jumpers/cardigans/coats. Even in the coldest of weather at most I can get him to put a zipped hoodie on undone but he takes it off again normally while we’re still out. He’d rather be cold. I guess as he’s aged I’ve just gradually allowed it, I do often carry a zipped hoodie in my bag just in case but he never actually wants it. It just makes me feel better!
He will also only wear Velcro fastening trainers, thankfully he attends a specialist school where they don’t have a uniform so he’s always been able to wear what is comfortable for him.

Another recommendation for sock shop seamless bamboo socks.

Have you tried boys trunk type pants?

Just get her the cosy leggings and wear them with no knickers.

Seemless socks and then boots.

Kids are seriously restricted with strict uniform rules and as an adult I'd find them uncomfortable.

I wear seemless pants from sainburys, leggings, dress, soft socks and boots to work.

I don't have sensory issues but i find clothing can be uncomfortable and I think a lot of people do. I wish they did more choices for children rather than waiting until they are adults to cater for them.