To stay or go??

[Wondering99]

o brief background. I’m in a job which I have mostly enjoyed until recently. However many changes are happening, I have a (terrible) new manager and my job itself is being changed - more stuff I dislike doing and less of what I do like. Other than my daughter I have no need to stay in this town but that will change soon as she plans to move away for work I have no local friends of family and am single.
The idea of a new job terrifies me - I suffer with anxiety, like routine (possible on the spectrum though never sought a diagnosis), and dislike certain types of change but the thought of being in this job(unless it improves) is horrible.
If things at work stay bad I’m thinking instead of looking for another job locally to move to another area I love (with cheaper property too)and then look for work once settled there. I can afford not to work for a few months.
When writing this, the decision seems like a no brainer! But I like my security, dislike the thought of learning a new job, potentially having worse colleagues,etc.
i would be so grateful for some feedback, thoughts, experiences please 🙏
TIA 😊

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In situations like this, i try to connect with my inner wisdom which sounds woo woo but i find it very helpful to set aside quiet time to really sit down and slowly consider my options, i find talking allowed and writing things down keeps to. There are a lot of free CBT and coping with change worksheets online and i often print them out and slowly, thoughtfully work through them, speaking to myself out loud always really helps to get my thoughts unscrambled.

I would advice to take a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you in life. Ask yourself what brings you joy and fulfillment and how your current situation aligns with those things and what's important to you and best for you. What you stand to lose, what you stand to gain.

Change is intimidating, but it also presents opportunities for growth and new beginnings. Consider whether staying in your current job, despite the challenges, will contribute to your overall wellbeing and happiness in the long run. If the negative aspects outweigh the positive ones, then perhaps it's worth exploring other options. I always tell myself when making big change to expect things to be hard, but that i can handle hard things.

Trust in your ability to adapt and learn and just like that you overcome obstacles in the past, you have gained valuable skills and resilience, you can again. That's all I've got. Only you can make those decisions for yourself and i guess ultimately you have to trust in yourself to handle whatever comes as a result of the steps you take. Good lucky Kentucky!

Life is risk. You can't avoid risk.
Its a delusion.

Life is navigating risk, and going after what matters to you.

Another thing is rather than viewing a decision as finite.
Viewing it as something you try. And if you try it and it's not for you, do you trust yourself to be able to redirect.

Ie if you try something new and it's not for you. You're adaptable. You can give yourself reassurance that you will go after what you want. And if it works great. And if it doesn't, you still have the option to try more things. :)

If you're on the spectrum and get a diagnoses then you could probably get some help from universal credit if you leave your job and look for more work that doesn't impede your mental health and is better suited to you. I have a friend in the spectrum who got onto universal credit for people who are going into self employment (she couldn't work with others or could of forced but was constantly having suicidal ideation) and she was able to go self employed because I believe they gave her a year of support so she could get herself established. It's not easy and many people are stuck in jobs they don't like unfortunately.

Does the employer have other offices? Worth looking into.

99% of people are nice people! You may find a better friendship group at work or you could join clubs.

Nobody likes starting a new job.

@Scarletttulips thanks - sadly no other offices, it’s a small organisation.