Need a hug or a handhold

[Sunshineandcauliflowercheese]

Just a real shitter of a day. Have NC incase outing.

My gorgeous son in 7yo. Adopted. Has attachment disorder, autism, adhd and fasd. Fought so hard for diagnosis. Fought so hard for special school. He’s finally really thriving. I’m so proud of him.

Paediatrician agreed today he probably has dyspraxia and has referred for an assessment. I’ve been saying this for years and no one listened. I’m glad it’s finally being looked into. But ffs it should have happened years ago.

My support network have completely vanished. All SEN mums themselves. All so close to my son who they know struggles with abandonment (my ex abused him and once I got police and social services involved he said DS was to difficult and didn’t want to ever see him again. Said this in front of DS. He now also no longer sees his half-brother).

I’m lucky I do have a few individuals supporting us still, mostly family and an amazing partner. But heartbroken these people have ditched my son. He’s not ‘too much’, he’s brilliant. He’s cried himself to sleep this week about his friends not wanting to be his friends anymore. About them running away from him. About them not letting him play.

He doesn’t deserve all this pile of shit that keeps being dropped on him. Just once I want him to have an easy time of it.

What a lucky little boy to have you as his mum.Wishing you both a better weekend

That is so tough, for him and for you watching him.

Remember how much worse it would be for him without you in his corner.

I guess all you can do is try to do something he enjoys this weekend. I'm sorry people have let him down.

thank you @Meduse

I’m poorly and pee every time I cough. The weekend is not looking promising 😂

Poor little sausage.

Do you know why your friends appear to have vanished? Maybe they're all struggling with their own children with Sen?

could you do something like book a SEN soft play session & tell everyone you're going & say it would be nice to see them??

I presume you mean school friends are running away & saying they don't want to play with him?? Go in & talk to school.

@Walking2024now24days they are probably struggling too but are making time for each other still. If I reply to a general comment in the group chat it literally ends the conversation. I suspect it’s because the “glue” of the group, who I genuinely considered my best friend, is mad at me for correcting her on something SEN related a few weeks ago. She’s not been the same with me since. I wasn’t an arsehole about it, and the only reason I even corrected her was because it was directly giving advice to another friend that wouldn’t have worked and I was trying to make it easier for the other friend. I did apologise for if I came across rude about it.

His friends are the children of my friends. They aren’t interested in him, I’ve booked things and asked if they want to join and they don’t. He no longer wants to spend time with these friends because of how they’ve acted towards him. The last time we were all together he came over to us adults crying that no one would play with him. Not one of my friends acknowledged it.

@Sunshineandcauliflowercheese

eell, they're not ver decent friends then are they.

are there any SEN groups or activities you could try something different & make some new friends.

i know it's not the same & I know it's not easy. But I don't think it's worth investing any more time if the Fickle Fannie's.

unless you could approach one or two of them privately, the nicest one & the one whose DC is most likely to play with DS.

They weren't good enough for him.
Be glad that they are gone. Others who are happy to have your treasure in their life will come soon.

Have a hug from me. Sometimes life is relentlessly shit.

This weekend explore the everyday things that give you moments of joy. It’s like the gratitude exercise at the end of the day, but different as in when you are going about your day, choosing and noticing the things that give you joy. Sounds woo but it really does shift the grey gloom.