Out of interest, how do you manage if this happens?

[Amwonderingaboutit]

Baby in pram, older child refusing to comply with you in a needing to leave sort of scenario (have already given warnings re timings.)

I have been known to put them under my arm and walk away with the child kicking and screaming. Mine are much older (teen and pre teen) now and don't remember these situations. You can't reason with a small child who refuses to comply.

Always had a double buggy so could strap both in if needed. And bribed with snacks. Also lots of warning, and being as flexible with leaving times as possible, sometimes we need to go that minute but not always. My 3yo is on the more reasonable side of 3yo’s though so it hasn’t been a battle too often. Leaving the house in the first place usually the bigger struggle!

Same as pp. pick them up and go

How old? Are you able to carry them? I might scoop them up and carry them whilst trying to push pram.

I can remember lying DS1 across the hood of the pushchair once and holding him down with one hand and pushing DS2 who was in the pram with the other. I was very hot and sweaty by the end of that walk home from Morrisons!

How old is the older child?

Pick up older child and carry them under one arm like a squealing pig
Baby in a sling, older child strapped into pushchair (if it's a pushchair rather than a carrycot)
Double pushchair

If they're bigger, like 4, then grab the top of their arm in a vice like grip and walk briskly, dragging them along. Note, I'm not suggesting bruising them, you can make sure your grip is escape proof without injuring them!

Disclaimer - have never been a contender for parent of the year.

I can remember on many occasions having to strap a tantrumming toddler into the pram and carry the baby... don't miss those days. Have also done the very firm grip of the hand to pull them along with me and stern words about this being one of those things that isn't a choice.

Double buggy until they were 2&4, even after that I took dd2 out of the pushchair and strapped dd1 into it on several occasions, in dd1's defence, she is autistic

Bribery - you give them plenty of notice, then offer a “high value” reward - as in “time to go, you can have a snack on the way” / “time to go, you can watch Peppa pig when we get home”
or you just lift and take the screaming kid out

Like others, pick up the older child and expect to be hit or kicked! On one occasion, a passer by offered to push the pushchair as I "seemed to have my hands full". On another, when the car was in sight, I parked the pushchair with the baby in it and carried the toddler to the car, strapped them into the car seat and then went back for the baby. And if at soft play, the local park or similar, then the pushchair or car seat with the baby it might get left with the receptionist or just a random group of mums for a few minutes whilst I wrestled the older child.
I've also been the one left with a random baby on occasion whilst its mum was dealing with her older child.

Rugby hold, feet out.

You lot are stronger than me - I wouldn’t be able to manage to hold with one arm! Luckily did comply eventually but I was starting to wonder what the hell to do!

Beg or borrow a double buggy. Your older child will hate it and eventually realise it’s better to just behave 😂. Mine did anyway.

How old is the older one?

I wouldn’t be able to fit a double in my car and it’s a bit extreme because of one incident!

Hes 3 so a bit big for pushchairs.

Rugby hold under arm and push buggy with the other.

I also always took the baby carrier out with me, then I had the option to strap DC1 in the buggy and carry DC2. Not great for the back having to lean over and push the pram but needs must!

You could do the classic pretend to leave, say goodbye and start walking off...(obviously don't let them out of your sight while doing this and make sure they're safe!). They usually will run after you

Never too big for a pushchair OP! My 5yo was tired walking back from the fireworks so we carried the baby and he sat in the pushchair 🤣

I used to turn my back and walk away. If possible get out of the child’s sight but keep an eye on them. If that is impossible just turn your back and ignore . It shouldn’t take long.

If I have the time I let a tantrum play out- if not im
man handling

4 kids all close in age, never had this issue I would have strapped him in pram and carried the smaller child 🤷‍♀️

You’d put a three year old in a baby’s pram?

yes mine still fit in the pram at 3?! No need for the raised eyebrow! Plenty of people have more than one child and manage this non event!

You can't put a toddler in a carrycot with no straps, they'd just leap out and it would be dangerous. But absolutely they can be forced into a pushchair and strapped in if they are refusing to comply.

They can but people don’t routinely use pushchairs for three year olds I don’t think (unless long walk.) And it wouldn’t be my first go to either.

Anyway all was well that ended well. But I did wonder.