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Parental alienation

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Dustingdemon · 24/01/2024 16:05

I'm not sure which topic would be best for this, so please move if this isn't correct.
I have a DD aged 8 and in the last 3 months discovered that Ex has been ruthlessly badmouthing me and my family to DD. She's in tears, her head hurts, has developed tummy aches and generally in a very sad state.
He's telling her things wholly inappropriate for her age, such as I kicked him out. I started the divorce. That I'm a liar, that I'm poor. That her siblings are untrustworthy, unemployed horrible people. That we're going to be kicked out of our house. That I'm just awful and so is everyone else.
He's saying things to her and to everyone he meets whilst around her.
She's a shell of the bright bubbly girl she was and I'm trying everything to build her up and alleviate her worries.

He puts her to bed with him at his bed time, telling her how scary the dark is. That people break into houses etc.

I'd there any advice anyone can give so I can protect her and make her feel better.

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regenerate · 24/01/2024 16:11

how often is she with him?

regenerate · 24/01/2024 16:11

how long have you been apart?

Dustingdemon · 24/01/2024 16:29

50/50 custody. Separated 5 years.

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culturetimes · 25/01/2024 06:03

what happened 3 months ago?

user1492757084 · 25/01/2024 06:07

He sounds like an unwell person.
Do you have good relationships with any of his extended family?
Is there anyone who can catch him at it and call him out?

I would put a spy camera and sound recorder in DD's bag and seek advice from Police or SS.

Seagrassbasket · 25/01/2024 06:07

Christ. I think I’d be going to court to get full custody and stop her seeing him

Dustingdemon · 25/01/2024 13:48

It's been going on a little while but amped up 3 months ago - I think because we are getting to the point where divorce is imminent.

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Dustingdemon · 25/01/2024 13:49

Unfortunately I can't put a recording device on her - not a practical thing.
I'm back to Women's aid getting her counselling for this.

Unfortunately I can't find a law that he's breaking with what he's doing. Though there should be one she's an absolute mess.

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Dustingdemon · 25/01/2024 13:51

His family has disowned him. He just sees different friends and he bad mouths me constantly to them around her.

She keeps asking what he did. But I refuse to say anything as it's a disgusting tactic and so harmful to her.

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