Can't seem to cope with any kind of job

[cantcopewithlife]

I'm in my late 20s and have tried a range of different jobs. In each one I seem to get incredibly stressed and anxious, terrified of making mistakes, struggling with the social side of things until I reach a breaking point where I'll start crying over nothing and experiencing strong feelings of depression and dread in the mornings that I can't shift until I leave and move onto something new. Then the cycle repeats.

I've reached the depression and dread stage again, and have no idea what to do. This time I had decided to retrain so I'm at university, and the idea of going to my lectures tomorrow is making me cry and I don't even know why. I just feel overwhelmed even though I've been getting good grades. I have no options left, no idea what the hell to do. I just can't seem to cope with being an adult

I relate a lot to what you’re saying, spent all of my 20s feeling like that. I’ve found trusting my gut has led me down the right paths and being brave and saying yes when opportunities present themselves. But remember, we don’t grow inside of our comfort zone. Learning and finding your way is uncomfortable for a lot of people (me included).

Go travelling?

I feel both sorry for everyone else and relieved other people feel the same. I seem to only be able to cope with a job for up to 2 years. I can’t deal with things being done the ‘wrong’ way, meetings that never get actioned, going round in circles over stuff and the boredom.

I'm the same, OP and I'm much older than you. I was eventually diagnosed with ADHD. It sounds like you're very highly sensitive and fear what people will think of you - that is my problem too.

Please see GP again, re AD's or ASD / ADHD referral, because this is so not normal and the fact you hadn't previously recognised that is worrying.

Interesting seeing this pop up in my notifications. Nearly 8 months on and in a different stage of the cycle, but still very much in the 'cycle'. I ended up dropping out of my course and getting a job in my previous industry. I work from home and have very low social demands on me compared with previous jobs - I have a couple of meetings a week and other than that I'm largely left alone to get on with things. That has helped a lot and for the first few months I felt like I had finally found a job that was a perfect fit for me.

However, I am now facing the issue of feeling completely bored. My work requires really intense focus and attention-to-detail, and it is very tedious. Any minor mistake or oversight is a big deal which is making me anxious.

I have inattentive ADHD and possibly autistic.

FFS I just wrote a long post then realised this was old!

Can you do some professional development or learning outside work? Is your self care good currently? I find having a standing desk and eating sufficient protein really helps too. For boring work I listen to upbeat music. Work out what the anxiety is telling you - what needs to change and how can you change it.

Just coming to this thread after googling and this has really hit home. Thankyou.

Oh gosh this me. I am drowning. I am waiting assessment for adhd/autism too.

I'm scared.

Gosh this thread resonates with me

Never coped with working. couldn't deal with office politics and didn't understand all the nuances, got bored very easily, put on an act all day that was exhausting, rarely got on with anyone at work because I never fitted in, often got sacked . I now strongly suspect I'm ADHD or autistic but I darent get assessed tbh

Now Been self employed 15 years , did self employed cleaning for about ten years and made good money, retrained in another industry 5 years ago and I'm doing very well, I'm becoming well regarded in that industry and I am now earning very well plus I absolutely, genuinely love my job.

So yeah ...self employed is the way forward

I need a secure income. My husband isn't a high earner and we're struggling. I'm so feeling the pressure.

My current role is unsustainable and I need to get out soon.

But ideally I'd apply for something that is "me" and I can progress in.

I feel line I'm drowning.

I have an interview soon but I'm not even sure I could do the role it's a bit out of my comfort zone and I'd love something I can do.

This sounds really hard 😔

This is how I feel. I was like this at school too, a few close friends but often having fall outs, always on the back foot and falling foul of bitchy girls. I struggle with office politics and who to trust. I’m very loyal and will try my hardest not to drop colleagues in it, but then I have been upset when other people throw me under the bus.

This sounds like me. It's ADHD. I'm now 35. I finally found a role that I was good at, then the funding was cut, I got shuffled sideways, and now I'm doing a job I hate and am rubbish at. I feel miserable and like I'm never going to be successful. Medication helps, but it doesn't fix the problem completely.

I am obsessively job hunting but ruling everything out.

I am super clever. I wish I'd found my niche and could excel in it.

@Honeysucklelane

"This is how I feel. I was like this at school too, a few close friends but often having fall outs, always on the back foot and falling foul of bitchy girls. I struggle with office politics and who to trust. I’m very loyal and will try my hardest not to drop colleagues in it, but then I have been upset when other people throw me under the bus."

I could have written that . My older Daughter is like this too , luckily she's now found a bunch of friends that are more like she js