Now at the point that I want to leave.

[MrsNandortheRelentless]

But I’m trapped.

I cannot live like this any longer.
I decided yesterday to no longer clean up after my family.

Its relentless, overwhelming and I live on a treadmill of working full time and doing all the cleaning, meal planning and shopping because if my partner does the food shop we have no food, just crisps, chocolate, crap and chicken nuggets. The bill is over £100.

I got up this morning and every single room, surface, floor, table is covered in clutter, dirty plates, empty bottles and rubbish.
The garage is overflowing with crap, the conservatory is dirty and full of crap over spilling from the garage, each room has crap from the garage and their hobby.

I am completely invisible and just their skivvy.

I want to see how long until they notice.

I have had it and I cannot live in this any longer.
i am saving as hard as I can in order to leave. I want a place of my own and to leave them all to it.

Has anyone ever done this? How did you even begin and how did it go? Do you have any kind of relationship with those you left behind?

Financially, how did you manage?

Ages of the people you live with would help for context

If they are all of an age to help then yes leave them to it

But if they are tiny people you just have to suck it up till they can help

Older. No small ones.

Then yep

Let them fend for themselves. You'll be surprised how quickly they learn. Example. DS(15) bought himself a fancy tracksuit off Vinted, has to be washed a certain way. He's now learnt to use the washing machine as I refuse to dick about

Tell them you’re on strike. Do your own laundry etc.

do it you won't regret it it's the best thing i ever done i love my life now
i had to lend £1000 from a family member to help get a flat
found a property that wouldn't be ready for a few weeks but i paid the deposit so it was mine
the few weeks gave me time to tie up loose ends and sort out what i was and wasn't taking with me
i looked around for 2nd hand fuinuture and took anything people offered
it was a long road but worth it i'm so much happier
do it good luck