Okay so I’m sorry if this ends up long winded but I’ll try and keep it short.
I’ve never really properly met my neighbours before. Said hi occasionally but it’s always been us initiating it, they’ve never said hi. They have never seemed very pleasant, we have often heard them arguing and shouting literally all hours of the day.
We have had to call the police on a couple of occasions as the woman called out ‘someone call the police’ other people in the street have done the same too as we’ve had the police knock on our door asking if we’ve called as it’s been done anonymously.
A week or so a go she stopped me as I was getting my kids out the car and basically said we’d never introduced ourselves or properly met before. She did apologise for the noise over the years and said her son (3 years old) has issues and she herself is bipolar and suffers badly with ptsd. She started telling me how her mom had died a few years a go and I felt really awful for her, so much so I gave her a hug.
She asked if I had Facebook and I told her my name so she could add me. She started messaging me and it seemed harmless. I told her it was my son’s birthday and she asked if it was ok if she got a card, I thought well of course it’s ok. Then she knocked on the door with a huge playdoh set for my other son and gave me the card. I was a bit shocked but was grateful. Then his birthday I find she’s put £20 in his card and again, shocked but grateful.
I told her I was feeling a bit rundown (I’m 6 weeks pregnant) and by this point we’d been messaging back and fourth for maybe a week or less. Whilst I was upstairs she knocked on the door and my partner answered. She had made a huge hamper full of stuff for me! I’m talking it was filled with stuff. Now I’m aware it’s sweet but I found it really intense.
I planned to have her come round for a cup of tea next week but have had to come
clean to her that I’m pregnant because my morning sickness is so bad I’m hardly able to get out of bed and wanted her to be aware that I may have to cancel.
She went from being overly nice to very blunt one worded answers as though she’s maybe annoyed at me? Didn’t congratulate me, stopped adding x’s to the end of her messages etc.
Now I’m aware I am maybe over reacting but want to know what other people would do in this situation? I am now thinking what have I done wrong? If anything? I’m feeling really weird about it all.