A while ago I broke up with my partner of a number of years. I went into work and my colleague offered me a shoulder to cry on. Over time, I would go out to a bar after work with her and spend a fair bit of time chatting about all sorts. Call her Emily.
Anywho, her and someone else who worked in another office in the building (female) are also really close. I think the other female is a bit of a bad influence on her call her Amy. . Usually I just get a gut feeling somethings off about her. And I feel a bit off in her presence to. It’s like Amy has control over her and she almost looks to Amy for validation. She’s also been someone who claimed someone did something to her in her team. And it caused them a great deal of stress which she thought was “pathetic” so also a classic gas lighter too.
Last night our team were headed to the pub for food and drink. Emily suggested it to Amy without letting me know. But I stay civil to Amy.
Emily and I had also been to Europe together before so I kind of thought we knew each other fairly well at this point. Emily started to talk about another member of the team who’s been promoted. I didn’t want to attend their drinks evening and neither did she so they rearranged on our account but I kept trying to avoid it. Emily said “well I said to Toby, I can’t make it because of childcare and I don’t know what Amelia’s (me) doing. I Flung Amelia (me) straight under the bus with that one” this sort of annoyed me as I’ve had her back a lot. It made me question her slightly, but also how rude she becomes in front of Amy toward me.
Then, later that evening she said “I reckon I’m going to hit bar number 2 straight after this with the hubby, then turns to Amy and went. “Wanna join” and didn’t even bother extending the invite to me? Yet we’ve been out so many times.
it was at this point I began to question the whole friendship and started to wonder whether I even want to be her friend with such behaviour. Am I being sensitive about it?