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Alternatives to nursery?

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Garlibread · 18/01/2024 19:09

I used to work in the early years sector and did supply so have seen lots and lots of different settings. Unfortunately there’s been possibly one or two where I’d be happy to leave a very young child. Some were outright bad (operating below ratio, which I did report) and ‘small’ things like not washing their hands consistently and not taking the youngest children outside. Others were just average but I always noticed the babies seemed to be overlooked a bit. As I say, maybe this was just the settings I was in and there were a couple that were lovely and homely. I would also have no qualms about a 2.5/3 year old+ going to some of these places.

We’re thinking about our options for when I go back to work after mat leave and really not sure what solution will work for us. I like the idea of a childminder for a small child, seems both more homely and relaxed, as well as cheaper and more flexible for shift workers which DH is. The downside to this is it’s obviously one person working alone with your child and they take holidays and sickness, then you’re stuck.

We do have family very nearby who are retired but they haven’t offered and I don’t know how I’d bring it up, nor do I think it’s fair or practicable to rely on them certainly not for the whole week!

I enjoy my job, as does DH and because of the cost of living I can’t see that either of us could go part time. I could possibly ask to drop a day or condense my hours but that’s as far as we could go. My work are really flexible and I am lucky to work from home part of the week but understand it’s impossible to look after a small child for more than an hour or so whilst also trying to work - unless for emergencies obviously.

Are there any other options I’ve missed off the list?

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Isthisexpected · 18/01/2024 19:11

A combination of nanny and childminder or family?

I know what you mean about nursery for babies, it's totally different for toddlers who can benefit and speak up when something bad happens to them.

NewmummyJ · 18/01/2024 19:14

We have a nanny, for the reasons you've outlined, but just depends on your finances. There is the option of nannyshare as well.

Meadowfinch · 18/01/2024 19:30

I chose an outstanding childminder.

My childminder paired up with another locally, so that they could cover for each other in emergencies. They often went to the play ground together as well, so the children had a wider set of social opportunities.

It worked perfectly

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toastandtwo · 18/01/2024 19:32

Some CMers are set up as 2 people looking after more kids. My friend’s DC went to one that was a mother and daughter team, and I was reading of one that was very highly rated that was a married couple. If you had anything like that locally it would be less likely for two people to fall ill at the same time?! (That was always my worry with a CM too.)

toastandtwo · 18/01/2024 19:33

And yes I agree with you re nursery for babies. I don’t know anyone who’s worked in a private nursery who has then gone on to use one for their own babies.

CuriousMoe · 18/01/2024 20:00

We found a super childminder near us. OFSTED rated and only looks after 2 children at a time. Lives a 5 minute walk away and minds in her own house with garden which is right next to the park in London. She’s not a huge amount cheaper than the nursery but with our DS only being 7 months old the home setting felt more appropriate for the next few years until he goes to a nursery. I think we got super lucky though as she’d literally just posted her opening when we jumped in.
I know some people worry about what happens when a childminder is poorly but I get generous “family days” from my work to be used for those exact circumstances. She does pair up with local childminders but I’d probably just stay home with him those days.

Caspianberg · 18/01/2024 20:03

i would pick a childminder at that age. If you have family nearby, maybe they would agree to be back up for the odd day occasionally if childminder was ill or closed?

underneaththeash · 18/01/2024 20:08

Just go and visit the options you have nearby, as an early year practitioner - you'll know which is the best place.

NuffSaidSam · 18/01/2024 20:15

Nanny or Nanny share are really your only other options, but you have the same potential issues with holiday and sickness as you would with a childminder.

Of course with a nursery you have the issue of your child being sick and being unable to go. Ime small children in nursery are sick far more often than adults who work with children are.

Garlibread · 18/01/2024 22:09

Thanks everyone. I never thought of childminders who work in pairs.

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