What is it with having your thread deleted because you don’t like the answers?

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just strop off to hq and have it deleted instead of accepting the replies

No, it’s not this, it’s because sometimes threads can turn vicious and some posters seem to have nothing better to do than advance search the OP and drag up everything they’ve ever posted about. It can get really personal in some cases. Why are you so bothered that you want it to stay up?

Hmm, wondering if you're referring to the same incredible flounce I've just seen on a thread where I actually think most replies were very reasonable, they just weren't what the OP was expecting.

I don't know, if I posted a thread asking for opinions I'd assume I'm doing so because I'm open to discussion. I like to think I'd be able to take it on the chin and perhaps learn something if everyone disagreed with me. I think a lot of people post because they want validation and then get in a big strop when it doesn't work out that way.

Some people on here appear literally never to have been disagreed with.

Pretty sure I totally am unless there’s multiple flouncers on here today 😂

@Urcheon Yes I genuinely think some people have lived their entire lives never being disagreed with!

@Beepbeepl but it’s often not a pile on. It’s literally a case of
“Aibu?”
”yeah you are”
”no I’m not and this is why”
”no you are unreasonable and this is why”
”fuck you all”

and thread deleted

It always amazes me given HQ refused to delete a thread when I’d been identified as it was unfair on those who’d replies.

Eventually they relented if I posted explaining why I’d asked for it to be deleted and that stood for at least an hour.

Yes this aswell. I have asked for a thread to be deleted due to identifying info (my fault, posted names and a picture without cutting it off) and it took 16h to come down.

I asked for a thread to be deleted after being told I was responsible for my own rape. Took days

Thread tonight? Down in minutes

Oh dear op.

You are not one of these posters wanting ops to leave their dh or something and if they don't you say they don't follow advise and attack them so much they have to get their thread deleted?... This is an advice forum, where people can and do ask for other people's opinions on a huge variety of problems from broken finger nail to terminal cancer and everything in between.

What ruins this site is over invested nutters who see it as a game to push and rile and attack posters and go on and on and on.

There is a big difference between disagreeing with an OP and being nasty. A LOT of posters seem to get a kick out of being nasty so it's not surprising some OPs flounce.

If it's the thread I'm thinking about, no the OP absolutely is not one of those posters. It was multiple people (gently) telling someone to stop making someone's childhood trauma about themselves. There was no pile on, just unanimous disagreement. OP (of that thread, not this one) then had an explosive flounce because they didn't like being told, by multiple victims of the same kind of trauma, that it was inappropriate.

Think: someone close to you confides in you about a rape they went through, you then make a post making that rape about yourself and your feelings on the matter, then get furious when multiple rape victims tell you that's bad and why it's bad, using their own experiences as an example.

Don't know what thread you're on about but if it's a massive pile on with lots of personal attacks is there really any point to it staying?

If OTOH it was reasonable replies, just not what the op wanted to hear then they're being a bit precious and should just hide the thread.

Yes thank you @MonsteraMama , it wasn’t a pile on, it was exactly this which was full of pretty unanimous and fair comments and no. I’m not one of those posters 🙄

I posted my experience on that thread quite early on. I missed the flounce.
I’m feeling quite angry now that it was just deleted.

I can understand it, posters on MN can be a bunch of vicious, unkind, cruel individuals. Any sniff of weakness from an OP and its like dogs scenting blood and a pile on begins. I think it makes some posters on here feel better about themselves to make someone else feel shitty and small by being harsh rather than actually trying to give helpful advice.

Sometimes OP's are written when people are emotional and vulnerable and its impossible to get everything across in a single post. But some posters on here are immediately on the offensive picking holes rather than actually being helpful.

I would never start my own thread on here for that very reason because there are too many mean spirited individuals looking for an easy target.

@StuckintheRutt and @LordyMe Absolutely, too many nutters on this site either projecting their own issues on to the OP or are just nasty people looking to hurt others.

That is bonkers!

I agree with you OP.
Some days I sit down and turn to 'Threads I'm on' to find more than one has been deleted. It is definitely happening more than it ever used to, and whereas you can see a reason, quite often it does seem to be because the OP has not like the answers they have been given. Not because people are "being nasty" or "piling on", but because they are just being disagreed with / offering differing opinions.

I posted a thread once and I got absolutely battered as a parent rather than advice and information like I needed

@fairymary87 I've seen that happen and its not pretty. I have my serious doubts about the people who seem to be on here all the time posting their venom and saying how they would never do this or stand for that. Surely someone so sorted wouldn't even be on mumsnet at all hours of the day. There are a lot of sad people out there so take all mumsnet replies with a huge pinch of salt.

A person can control the original post only, it really would be simpler if people just said 'only reply if you agree with me'

@WandaWonder People can disagree but they could be civil rather than phrase it like the OP was a moron. I suppose most of these posters regard themselves as "tell it like it is types" aka arseholes.