My 15 YO DD is vaping. I don't want to come down too strong as I know that will just make her want to do it in hiding. In fact, she's already hiding it really, I only found out because I could smell it on her, initially she said it was her friends. Then I found a vape in her room (not snooping, removing bedsheets for the wash), and she still said it belonged to a friend, but it was a half hearted lie and eventually said she had been vaping. I really don't feel that the punishment route will be successful, don't want to damage my relationship with her, but obviously I also worry about her health.
She says she uses vaping for relaxation and that it makes her feel calm. I suspect it's also a way to feel close to her friends if they're all doing it. We have spoken about alternatives she could use for relaxation, what sort of things make her feel stressed in the first place, etc. But I guess ultimately being part of her peer group is what wins the day, isn't it? Although I'd argue that if she's now vaping alone in her room, then she's probably addicted.
Is there anything I can do or say to support my DD in thinking about this being a bad idea, but without lecturing? I want her to stop on her own accord.