Loud chewing

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Why do some people chew so loud?! My daughter and I are both sound sensitive (struggle with others eating noises).

However in our family you can hear my husband chewing some foods even in the room next door (small house admittedly)

He has his mouth closed so it really is just his eating noise. But why?!!??!

(People with mouth open/scraping cutlery on teeth whole other issue but this one is puzzling as his mouth is clsoed)

Quite aware we are "oversensitve" but why are some people loud chewers. Thinking about it my dad was. Is it men?! Is it mouth shape?! I think my husband would stop if he could poor thing.

Is it really just me?!

It's called misophonia. It's you, not them.

I agree OP. Added to this my husband breathes too loudly.

Try working in an open plan office!
Lunch times with desk top eating, can be excruciating for those who like you, suffer.

That together with the aroma of last night’s reheated left over curry, boiled eggs or Doritos crunching, yuk! 🙄

Henry - yes I know its misophonia hence knowing my daughter and I have sound issue.

BUT the q is why is some chewing LOUDer than others even with their mouth shut!? (So not yucky eating).

This should be the one surefire, cast-iron excuse for murder. It's a form of self-defence.

I do not accept that grown adults are somehow incapable of eating at a reasonable decibel level. Most of us can without even trying, so I can only conclude those who bite the spoon while eating cereal, talk with their mouths full, and record a Richter Scale reading while eating Monster Munch are doing it to be deliberately provocative, and absolutely deserve to be garrotted in their sleep. Hopefully over time the gene that causes this would be eradicated.

XDown I'm so with you there! People eating apples/crisps on trains with their mouth open is the absolute worst.

I just don't get why some people's chewing noises are loud even with their mouth shut (mouth open is generally regarded as bad manners even though a surprising number of people do it!)

One of my friends eats like a washing machine going round. He eats with his mouth open, makes that horrible smacking sound with his lips when he puts food in his mouth, I have never heard anyone eat like that, and chewing it’s like watching a cow at the cud.

That sounds truly awful!!

I do have a friend who eats normally for a few bites then sort of does a chew with her mouth open, then repeat... why oh why?!

I guess once into adulthood noone tells them!?

My ex DH had misophonia. I wasnt allowed to eat near him. If he caught me eating I was "disgusting and made him want to vomit" He would scream at me that he couldnt bear to be in the same house as me and go upstairs. I wasnt allowed the raw carrots I craved during pregnancy unless he was out of the house. It left me feeling like some horrible pig at a trough, to the point I developed a phobia about eating in front of other people.

Not one single person( including my current DH of 12 years) has ever been able to hear me eat, so I would like to bet the problem is with you and your daughter. Get some headphones or therapy, but dont blame your DH for your issues.

I dont think that's quite the issue - and as we're both aware we often remove ourselves or the person eating an apple removes themselves. We don't talk in terms of "disgusting" to people etc. I'm sorry your ex was so unkind.

But some people chew louder than others and I can't work out what is different - it's usually men. Is it face shape?!

(Fwiw "therapy" doesn't fix sensory issues - and in fact we're both have coping techniques around people who eat with mouths open etc. Just so you know 😊)

Also in our house there's 3 of us that can hear loud chewing from a different room- so it's not "just us". Some people just are louder. Why!?

My colleague slurps and slops her way through her lunch every day - she sits directly opposite me and the office is generally pretty silent so nothing to drone her out.

I never used to be sensitive to things like that but now I become utterly enraged and have to leave my desk when she appears with her lunch.

Both me and DS2 have misophonia secondary to ADHD. It's a nightmare for poor DH and DS1 who regularly get evils for chewing too loud 😂
I manage it just about but DS2 is only 7 so sometimes has to wear noise cancelling headphones at the dinner table or we have meltdown central.

I often put a finger in my ear when I’m beside an eating DH and he gets very offended

other than walk away mid dinner or say something to him I’m not sure what else I can do

Fizzy sounds like our family. I just can't work out what makes it louder sometimes or I could say "stop doing x!" I can't say stop chewing so loud when he has his mouth shut.

Another pet hate is when people have stuff in their mouth and might just say a little thing thinking it doesn't matter but the sound of people talking with food in their mouth is awful.

In terms of what helps me if anyone's interested.

*me chewing at the same time - sometimes it's not as obvious/offensive if I'm not hyperfoccussed on their chewing if I am too.

• watching TV (we do more of this now)

I cant do radio in the background over a meal while chatting as I can't listen and talk. But tv we aren't trying to talk at the same time.

At work etc obviously moving away.... but if not digging fingers into my palms/fidgets sometimes helps or foot tapping.

And in our family we all know to go elsewhere to eat crisps/apples

I know this is a year late…I recently became a stepmom. When I was dating my now husband he remarked that usually the sounds of chewing drove him insane to the point he’d leave the dinner table but with me he has no problems which is nice to be able to sit at the table and enjoy a quiet dinner together. I knew people existed that were bothered by chewing sounds so I thought nothing of it.

jump to current day. His son and daughter/my step kids were such disgusting loud eaters I’d lose my appetite and use every ounce of self control to not split in two. After months of enduring this I talked with my husband about starting to practice table manners with the kids bc they were old enough at 8 & 10 (my kids of the same age already had table manners and could use all cutlery correctly and independently) such as smaller bites vs wads that pooch out cheeks while food falls out of their mouths, not talking while chewing, chewing slowly, and chewing with their mouths shut. Since he was deeply irritated by the noise he agreed.

my step daughter has improved significantly. My stepson on the other hand…the noises seem to be worse. If he’s eating hard food like carrots he can be heard chewing with his mouth shut from 50ft away. Along with increased chewing noise he now snarfles and whistles and snot bubbles out of his nose as he eats. We asked him for months to blow his nose before dinner or excuse himself to clear his nose but he doesn’t until we tell him to go blow his nose.

I swear this child’s head must be completely hollow with amazing acoustics because the last time a living thing roamed the eat capable of eating at this volume was some kind of dinosaur that I read about using its head chambers for creating ear splittingly loud noises.

I now eat a small amount as fast as I can before the noise makes me irate or lose my appetite and excuse myself from the table along with my husband. When I serve a non family meal like breakfast or lunch during summer I call them to the table and excuse myself from the room and go where I can’t hear it.

I have never in my life been adverse to any other person’s chewing be it child or adult in anyway. So I absolutely believe that it is possible to encounter someone with miraculous chewing volumes that are enraging and disturbing without you yourself having any kind of condition or sensory issues.