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What’s a weird thing your In-Laws do?

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FirstFallopians · 16/01/2024 12:06

I was thinking there about how my BIL maintains that all families are a little bit weird to someone else.

Thought he was being flippant but then I remembered that my in-laws keep their family toothbrushes and toothpaste in a drawer in their bathroom. If you need a bit of floss after Sunday lunch you need to stick your hand into a sticky, damp mass of plastic and bristles.

What slightly weird things do your in-laws do?

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Wexone · 17/01/2024 15:02

Love my mother in law but my god she has a huge obsession's with chairs - scours the country and the internet for second hand chairs. Long hall consist of a bench (which can sit 6 people) a big arm chair two large wooden chairs and her latest purchase two huge ugly green high back leather chairs she got at auction - you cant move in the hall. Porch also consists of two wooden chairs either side of the door a long bench and read high leather back chair she got at a charity shop ( looks like something out of an 80's porn fil) Has a beautiful long tower shaped conservatory - large dinning table 12 chairs - also has 4 chairs dotted around which need to be moved before sit down. Little dining room has 5 chairs plus two what she calls French chairs, living room, big three piece sweet queen ann chair two rocking chairs and two chairs in window. Kitchen also has a table and 4 chairs, You cant move with the amount of chairs at mo and she lives on her own! The most people she has in the house is 4 at one time. and they are not even comfortable chairs😩She mid 80's and husband jokes she is prearing for her funeral. Also will joke with her what chair you buy this week Blessed to have a holiday home, each bedroom as ugly unsuitable chairs plus living room has 2 3 seaters 2 singles and 2 more have appeared when down over xmas 🤔I am like why why

Violinist64 · 17/01/2024 15:05

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 14:46

My OH when we started going out together would never carry a shopping bag. He said men don't carry 'the messages'! Messages being a NI term for shopping. But he used to do housework and cook, so it wasn't as if he was old fashioned about women/men's work!

My dad would never carry a shopping bag, either. He was from Cumbria and the word messages is used there as, I believe, it also is in Scotland.

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 16:02

People had morning coffee, or elevenses, and then afternoon tea back in the day.

Theunamedcat · 17/01/2024 16:19

PlumpAndGrump · 17/01/2024 12:53

My MIL fries baked beans to heat them.

Like cooks them in the frying pan or uses butter?

If I cook something like that in the frying pan its faster but I grew up around people who added butter to baked beans or cheese because it tastes nice

Theunamedcat · 17/01/2024 16:23

I'm quite looking forward to being a batshit mil I have inside and outside clothes garden shoes a first aid kit in my car painkillers dotted all over my house (out of reach because ds2 thinks they are sweets) I clean the cat litter trays several times a day and use the same bag if I can I just tie a knot on it to keep the smell in I also have (even more horrific) a cat blanket on my bed for the cat to lie on and he sucks it too

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 16:27

Whoever said theres nowt as queer as folk was right!

FlibbedyFlobbedyFloo · 17/01/2024 16:54

Violinist64 · 17/01/2024 15:05

My dad would never carry a shopping bag, either. He was from Cumbria and the word messages is used there as, I believe, it also is in Scotland.

Shopping = messages in Dutch too!

katseyes7 · 17/01/2024 17:16

My ILs house has been neglected for so many decades it’s like a time warp. Several rooms still have circular fluorescent tube lights on the ceiling and I’m amazed they still work. They don’t suck the light out of the room though, they make me feel like my retinas are burning 🔥

My mam still had these in her house when she died 12 years ago. And polystyrene ceiling tiles. Recipe for disaster....

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 17:22

Allthingsdecember · 16/01/2024 17:00

Mushy peas on Christmas dinner (which was brought to the table already served up so I didn’t even get the opportunity to say I didn’t want any).

Plus MIL and FIL never sit to the table when they have guests. They’ll invite you round for a meal, but won’t join you at the table… it’s very odd. FIL eats his in front of the TV and MIL insists that she has a teeny tiny appetite and is so full from her breakfast that she can’t fit anything else in. Except she sneaks food constantly so obviously is hungry, she just doesn’t want us to know that she eats?

We always had Bigga dried peas with our Christmas dinner. You had to steep them before in a wee tablet in water overnight before cooking

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 17:24

I can't have a cold drink while eating soup as soup is a liquid! I also can't eat chicken and egg together, like a salad or sandwich. My OH thought that was odd!

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 17:27

ManateeFair · 16/01/2024 17:19

I actually wish my DP was on Mumsnet now, because there are LOADS of things my family do that he definitely thinks (and rightly so, to be honest) are nuts.

One of his favourites is that whenever my mum comes to stay for a couple of days, she brings all sorts of random stuff with her 'so it doesn't go to waste'. It's usually some satsumas and perhaps a rapidly browning banana. When I ask why she's brought them, she says 'Well, they'll have gone off in the fruit bowl by time I'm back home'. But she never actually eats these things when she's at our house. Last time she said 'They'll have gone off in the fruit bowl by the time I'm back home' DP said 'Oh yes, best to bring them up here so you can watch them go off in our fruit bowl' and she found it hilarious but we all know she will do exactly the same thing next time.

Sometimes she brings a couple of close-to-the-use-by-date Activia yogurts with her. She doesn't eat these either. They just sit in our fridge and then get thrown in the bin after she's gone home.

My dad also used to insist on accompanying DP to the supermarket, because he just likes looking round a supermarket he's never been to before. Then when he got back he'd give me his supermarket feedback and say something like 'That's a right good Sainsbury's you've got there, isn't it?' or 'I see you've got a Timpson's in your Tesco's, then. That's useful.'

I love a wander round a new supermarket!

katseyes7 · 17/01/2024 17:27

My mam had cream 'leather effect' worktops in her kitchen.
Which she kept covered with sheets of newspaper 'to keep them clean'.
My cousin asked me about them after she'd visited, and said exactly what l'd said "But they'll get covered in newsprint!"
My mam wouldn't have it, though.
She also 'drawing pinned' the curtain nearest the living room door to the window frame "because it flaps about when you open the door".
Which wasn't very often. But apparently holes in the window frames were better than flapping curtains.

istoodonlegoagain · 17/01/2024 17:29

Gwenhwyfar · 17/01/2024 08:02

This is to do with the belief that hanging around cold and wet makes you vulnerable to colds isn't it? There's some truth in that. Plus potentially having to put the immersion on in advance and having to warn family members that the bathroom will be unavailable for a while.

I'd understand if they were bathing in an outdoor bathroom in January, but they have central heating which is on all the time, no risk of pneumonia in their house. I think it's more a hang over from Sunday bathtime when they were young when it really was a massive deal. Their 'new' shower room still looks new after 12 years as it's hardly bloody used 🤣

likepeddlesonabeach · 17/01/2024 17:43

Gwenhwyfar · 17/01/2024 06:58

Is it just from the way he was brought up? When people had outside toilets they washed in the kitchen. My DF was brought up like that, but he does use the bathroom sink now.

Ooh maybe it is actually, never thought of that! I'm pretty sure his family had an inside bathroom when he was growing up but it's very possible his parents didn't in their childhoods so maybe this was just was the norm in their home and it stayed with him.

Cally17 · 17/01/2024 17:44

I don't drink tea or coffee. Every time I go to PILs they always ask me if I want a cup of tea. I've been going round there nearly every weekend for the last 26 years. In all that time they've never once offered me any other type of drink, not even tap water, when I constantly refuse a cup of tea I am offered absolutely nothing. When they come to my house and I drink something like a can of coke in front of them, they look horrified and shout "she's got pop" in the same horrified tone of voice as if I'm sat there shooting up heroin. I once dared to take a can of "pop" round there with me but they kept eyeing it up as if it was a poisonous snake I'd brought into their home.

bonzaitree · 17/01/2024 17:51

Not in-laws but my sister. When she is going to bed she announces « I’m going to get my supplements » she goes and gets several bottles and brings them downstairs and takes the supplements.

She then gets a fresh cup of water to take upstairs with her (taking the bottles with her). She then uses that water to take prescription meds upstairs.

She then brings the cup of water downstairs. She announces « just taken my pills for x ». Then she pours the remaining water out and puts her cup in the dishwasher.

Her boss gave her feedback that she was slow and needs to speed up at work. I was not surprised in the slightest!!! If she takes 10 extra steps to take some fucking pills I dread to think what her productivity is like at work!!!

maddiemookins16mum · 17/01/2024 17:59

ilovepixie · 17/01/2024 17:27

I love a wander round a new supermarket!

Me too, I get huge pleasure from an overseas supermarket too ☺️☺️

helenatroy · 17/01/2024 18:12

Mine IL’s are very strange indeed compared with my family. They enjoy hanging out together, support each other and seem to genuinely like each other. They never slag each other off, finish each others sentences and make each other roar with laughter. They know each others style and buy each other the perfect gifts.

Took a lot of getting used to when I first arrived on the scene. My SIL, is from a similar family to mine and was equally perplexed when she arrived a few years later. Had to have so many wine fuelled conversations with her saying things like, no it’s not a cult, I think they actually love each other.

cavalier · 17/01/2024 18:20

I’m an inlaw lol … or outlaw .. and I keep mine in my toiletry bag and my flossers in my bathroom cupboard because if germs when the flush the toilet etc

im a real baddy me

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 17/01/2024 18:22

Violinist64 · 17/01/2024 15:05

My dad would never carry a shopping bag, either. He was from Cumbria and the word messages is used there as, I believe, it also is in Scotland.

Re messages, it's interesting as it's what DH and his friends say, I'm in Ireland in a regional city but I grew up in a town about 20km away and never heard this expression until I moved to the city. Its very random!

DuploTrain · 17/01/2024 18:24

I thought messages meant more like “errands” rather than specifically just shopping?

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 17/01/2024 18:25

Speaking of shopping bags, my Dad thinks a 'bag for life' is a literal term. They cannot be thrown out in any circumstances. Some have badly stretched handles and the print all come off in patches, embarrassing. He would rather turn back and drive home if he forgot his bag than fork out for a new one.

thedementedelf · 17/01/2024 18:26

Messages is a Glasgow thing. It means going for your shopping.

thedementedelf · 17/01/2024 18:26

DuploTrain · 17/01/2024 18:24

I thought messages meant more like “errands” rather than specifically just shopping?

Not in Glasgow, it means your shopping

DiscoDee · 17/01/2024 18:42

My in laws never remove their coats if they visit someone - just perch on a sofa drinking tea in a coat. It’s bloody ridiculous.

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