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Are you still friends with your NCT group?

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Yellowwellies1 · 14/01/2024 23:12

And how long has it been?

My group are still in regular contact 18 months in, but I'm still sceptical we'll all become best friends for life. Maybe I have unrealistic expectations!

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Haggisfish3 · 14/01/2024 23:14

There were about ten of us initially and we quickly dwindled but there are five of us now who still keep in sporadic contact 13 years later!! We still see each other two or three times a year but we message quite a lot.

olderbutwiser · 14/01/2024 23:14

One, from 33 years ago. Very good friends.

piglet81 · 14/01/2024 23:15

No. It wasn’t a great success unfortunately!

Shayisgreat · 14/01/2024 23:17

I have spoken to any of them since my ds was about 11 months. We didn't really click as a group. I made better mum friends at baby massage/yoga and playgroups.

dancinginthewind · 14/01/2024 23:17

There were 8 of us initially. One went her own way after about 6 months and one moved overseas a couple of months later. The remaining 6 of us met up regularly for about 8 or 9 years with weekly meet ups for the first 6 years as several of us had a second child around the same time and so we continued to meet until they started primary school. Once all of the "babies" were at school and the original NCT babies were doing extra curricular stuff and things, life just began to get in the way.

Shayisgreat · 14/01/2024 23:18

Typo - I haven't spoken to them

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 14/01/2024 23:18

Yes still in contact and see a handful of rhe mums from mums group with my second 10 years on. Not the same with my 1st or 3rd. There was a handful of us that just clicked. We've had very similar life experiencs and parenting experiences, chronic illness, all have ND kids, many of us ND too, abusive partners, but beyond that we just clicked.

EffortlessDelegation · 14/01/2024 23:18

Yes, we are very close and see each other regularly apart from one who dropped out early on. I cannot imagine not having them in my life. 20 years.

Wearegettingfedup · 14/01/2024 23:18

I didn’t join because throwing people together because their babies are due at the same time is a lottery.
My friends were made under normal circumstances.

NachosAndCheese · 14/01/2024 23:20

We’re spread all over world now but still in contact on fb.

HoobleDooble · 14/01/2024 23:20

I have 3 friends from Antenatal class about 15 and a bit years ago, who I still see a few times a year.

EffortlessDelegation · 14/01/2024 23:20

Wearegettingfedup · 14/01/2024 23:18

I didn’t join because throwing people together because their babies are due at the same time is a lottery.
My friends were made under normal circumstances.

It is quite possible to do both.

Snowonthebeachx · 14/01/2024 23:21

2 and a half years in and still friends with over half (as in we would make arrangements still to meet up) and friendly with the rest (wouldn't arrange to meet up one on one but have hung out in bigger groups). Lots of smaller friendship groups have definitely come of ours. We haven't met as a whole group for ages as we were a group of 8 and the logistics are too hard!

berryhand · 14/01/2024 23:23

Seven in our group and four of us remain extremely close, see each other all the time, message every day. I don't know what I'd do without them. Babies are about to turn 5.

preggo39 · 14/01/2024 23:23

Wearegettingfedup · 14/01/2024 23:18

I didn’t join because throwing people together because their babies are due at the same time is a lottery.
My friends were made under normal circumstances.

This is a weird comment. What are 'normal circumstances' for making friends, if not meeting people you get on with at random?

Snowonthebeachx · 14/01/2024 23:24

Wearegettingfedup · 14/01/2024 23:18

I didn’t join because throwing people together because their babies are due at the same time is a lottery.
My friends were made under normal circumstances.

Why is an NCT group any less normal than meeting at a baby group or work friends or the people on your floor at uni? Obviously it's a bit arbitrary but I found it great in the intense early days. Once people when back to work or had second children it's not been as active but I've still made some good friends who are easy to spend time doing toddler things with!

DramaAlpaca · 14/01/2024 23:24

No. I lost contact with mine after a couple of years because I moved away. I'm in touch with a couple of them on FB but that's all.

TheSmallAssassin · 14/01/2024 23:26

Wearegettingfedup · 14/01/2024 23:18

I didn’t join because throwing people together because their babies are due at the same time is a lottery.
My friends were made under normal circumstances.

I've been thinking how lucky my daughter is to meet people she likes in her student flat, that's no different! A lot of the groups we get put in and make lifelong friends in are similarly random groupings, classes at school, people we work with, the people who live nearby.

distinctpossibility · 14/01/2024 23:26

4 of us are in contact. 1 of them we see about five or six times a year. The other two are my best mates - our kids are like cousins. We see each other at least weekly without the kids and have holidayed together most years etc. Eldest kids nearly 13. One of them I would have defo crossed paths with anyway I think, but the other two I probably wouldn't have done.

NachosAndCheese · 14/01/2024 23:27

WTF is ‘normal circumstances’.

My school mum friends are some of my best friends but we were thrown together because our kids happened to start school at the same time. I don’t see that as any different from meeting any other friend, through work, school, wherever.

Tbh it just sounds a bit smug and twatty.

TheSmallAssassin · 14/01/2024 23:30

Still friends with nearly half of our group two decades later.

FractiousPangolin · 14/01/2024 23:33

We got on well as a group and continued to meet up for quite a few years. 11 years on, we just see one of the families now, but they are among our closest friends. I remember looking round the group at the first meeting, and feeling that there was only one of the women who seemed too scary for me to imagine becoming friends with. Now I can't imagine my life without her!

creamcheeseandlox · 14/01/2024 23:34

I'm still friends with 3 out of 8 of the group. We are quite close and see each other regularly/go camping etc. we all had dd's and they will be 15 this year. We also had our second babies around the same time even though there is a gender split there the second siblings are friends also.

LorlieS · 14/01/2024 23:35

Good God! Most definitely not!!

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Yellowwellies1 · 14/01/2024 23:38

For those of you who still meet as a group years later, are there certain people in the group you're closer to than others?

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