What makes you happy?

[QueeenBee]

What makes you happy in life? And what doesn't
I had a horrible argument with my husband today and he said "you just aren't happy with me and that's that" he couldn't have been more wrong. He makes me very happy, he's a wonderful father to our dc and provides for us makes sure we want for nothing, but for some reason I have been feeling very down the last year or two. It comes and goes but most of the time I'm happy, I love being a stay at home mother and homemaker, dc1 is 22 month and dc2 is 3 months.
I have never worked a day in my life, but I don't have any friends, my mother passed away last year, and I basically have no social life. Or should I say WE have no social life. Dh works long works from 5am sometimes doesn't get home until 6-7pm. My life consists of making sure my dc are fed, watered and happy and keeping on top of the housework. Weekends we try to do family outings and basically just got to Costco and softplay. Bearing in mind we are both only early 30's. Anyway back to the point, I would like to know what makes you happy? Are you fulfilled and content? If yes, why? If no, why? Tia.

Hours * not "works"

Tye things that make me happy are working full time in a demanding job, working as a team with DH on kids/household chores, spending time with the DC (although they’re also frustrating and hardwork) and exercising. We don’t see friends much but as DC getting older are seeing friends more often.

being with friends makes me happy. And my work, but that may be less typical.

your youngest is only 3 months so take things easy. but do you go to any baby groups? Or toddler groups for the older one so you can meet parents with kids the same age. that was a lifeline for me with little ones.

If your mum died last year, no wonder you feel down sometimes...that's a big bereavement x

Yes, exercise is up there with the happiness factor, i use a peloton every evening after kids are in bed and it's something I look forward to very much.

My job keeps me happy and fulfilled. My friends, socialising, exercising. My kids both make me happy and infuriate me in equal amounts.
Above everything social connection with my friends and colleagues is the thing that makes me most happy. Without that I would be very down indeed

Things that make me happy:
-anything hygge.. blankets, candles, everyone eating from one big pot of shared food, cuddles, wearing my nana’s cardigan if I feel down, writing in my new diary, tea made in a pot.
-finding little surprise signs that my daughters have been playing.. like a heart drawn in mirror steam or a dolls house where one room has been organised or note they have written the tooth fairy.

• my husband messaging me every morning he’s away and before he falls asleep at night.

-tucking my kids into bed, knowing they are here and safe and well.

Can I ask gently , and you don’t need to answer, but is there a reason you’re early 30s with a child not yet two, but never worked a day in your life? Could that reason be why you have no social circle?

maybe I’m the wrong person to answer, but my work, my family, my friends, my financial independence makes me happy.

I'm so happy to have a kind, loving & thoughtful husband who treasures me. He is my world. I'd thought for a long time that I was unlovable, and incapable of loving, but now I know I was wrong. 😊

You don’t need more than that? Friends, a social life, work, money? Just your husband?

This is meant yo be a happy thread. Can we leave out the questioning/criticism, please. Ta.

No need to be defensive, it was a question, not a criticism, it was just such an unusual post.

Happy to be alive it's really that basic for me. I was laying in a hospital this year, extremely unwell, the consultant had told me they found multiple masses in my abdomen via a scan. I thought it was game over. After surgery all I wanted to do was see my kids and husband. So now, I look at them and I think I'm happy.

Don’t be ridiculous. She doesn’t have to list everything but this was her main one .

Laughing with my colleagues

Cuddling my kids

Lambing

Collecting fresh eggs from my chickens

Walking the dogs up the hill

Watching tv with dh and cuddling up

Having a nice dinner with the family

Being at home on my own once in a while and binge watching tv! It doesn't happen often as we have a very full on life

I think once your kids are older you could do with getting out more - a part time job or making some friends. That will definitely help.

Things that make me happy - lovely husband who works from home so we are together all the time pretty much, he is caring and makes lovely food for us all. Just baked us a galette. Supported me through cancer treatment, taking me to every appointment and staying with me in any the NHS allowed (covid times).
Mr Floof - amazing cat
My children - wonderful daughter, bright, kind, and lovely asd son.
Lovely chocolate box cottage and beautiful garden
Holidays esp with wildlife
Swimming 3 times a week with DH, sauna, steam room, jacuzzi
Days out like Orchid Festival at Kew, seeing puffins and some social events
Being financially secure
People who are kind
Renovating house
Planning holidays

Knowing I’ve married the right man. My bonkers horse. Taking my bra off after a 12 hour shift. Having three lovely and healthy kids ( teens ). Afternoon tea with my father. Talking bollocks with friends over a glass of wine. Naughty sex. No money worries. Feeding the Red Kites in my garden. Saving lives.

Using power tools makes me happy

Can be any "power" tool, I include, blenders, sewing machines, drills, saws, in all this.

I absolutely love planning a dinner to share with family and friends, thinking about what they'd like to eat, spending the afternoon cooking, the chat around the table, the DCs chatting away and then running off to play while the adults set the world to rights. If it's a weekend lunch then a walk. Just the best possible way to spend time and something that makes me so happy.

Been up all night due to neighbours next door having a loud friend over. They talked loudly from 10pm until 4am. Had music on.

Definitely sleeping. A good night's sleep is what makes me happy. Can't wait to get to my bed tonight once DC are settled back in bed.

Moved to Switzerland when I was very young, then we returned back to Britain and I lived with parents who are luckily very well off and got married at 28 to a husband who is equally so. Never really needed a job. Sadly I'm not quite sure how I've never managed to make or keep friends.

Haha, My dh is like this also.

The type of things also make me happy. I really struggle with being able to chill out and relax as I'm always thinking of something that must be done! But when I take the time to light a candle and read a book it makes me so happy.