Do I have DC3

[moonb]

So I have 2 DC, 14 and 10. We live in a 3 bedroom house, kids are happy and settled. I'm 35 and DH is 42. Money not an issue, if we were to have another one, I would likely take full maternity leave and DH may be a SAHD for a couple of years to save on childcare costs. Our life is so easy and settled, but I just feel like I would like one last baby.

I should add, I had two difficult pregnancies which were high risk. Just not sure what to do?

Why do you want another one with such a large age gap? I can't see any benefits for your existing kids. They would loose having their own bedrooms, being able to do stuff for their age (without having a bored crying baby/toddler having to go too), etc

I can’t imagine why you’d want to! Two difficult pregnancies, baby days long behind you. I wouldn’t 😄

No way! Far too big an age gap, and how would your existing kids feel. Someone would have to share a room at some point too. Selfish - don’t do it.

Your kids need you at those ages, they don’t need you suffering with a high risk pregnancy and a baby. Also unless you plan on moving house you don’t have the space.

Can the DC share op? Would that work at 16 and 12? Would the 16 have room to study? Could you split a room?

In what way was the pregnancy high risk? DSis had pre eclampsia with all her pregnancies. With the two in her late 30s / 40s she spent a fair amount of time in and out of hospital. Or was it that you had poorly babies? In which case weeks in NICU with exams etc. is alot.

I don't think anyone should base their child bearing around the way it benefits their children - my younger kids aren't here for my older kids sake. But I do think with high risks comes deep considerations

I wouldn't in your circumstances, you and your dh could be going on holidays just the 2 of you in 5 years time not starting all over again .

I'm going to say no, just because the planet is overcrowded and an environmental disaster.
However, aside from that it would depend upon 1/the health impacts and 2/ the input of your 2 older children. You're still relatively young. You know what's in store. The only thing re the age gap is whether you would then want a 4th to keep the third company.