How to cancel plans without looking bad

[Chocolatetwist1]

I’m supposed to see a friend next week for food and drinks. I’m feeling crap about myself and not in a good place mentally, I’m feeling really down and also need to lose weight, my skin has broken out and I just want to not see anyone and hide to be honest. How do I say that without looking bad for cancelling?

I'd give a version of the truth. ''Not feeling great right now.. I'm no company right now''

I went through a phase (am I still in it) where I chase after people suggesting nights out and I'm on the receiving end of a lot of this and it passes the baton on, I end up feeling really shit about myself, really questioning if there's any value to me living in an expensive city and should I just move away.

Dear friend, I'm really sorry but I'm not in a great place right now and really need to rest. Hope you understand and that we can get together soon. Thanks

How good a friend?

what sort of place did you have planned? Could that be downgraded.??

a glam friend & top end restaurant. I'd just say I'm really sorry, but need to cancel, hope to catch up soon etc

good friend I'd 'downgrade' to food delivered at one of our houses. Comfy clothes & good chat.

If it's a good friend they won't care about skin breakout/not feeling your best.
A coffee & chat with a good friend might make you feel better.
Can you ask to meet for coffee rather than lunch if you don't want to indulge or just go for a walk or visit somewhere you both like.

Are they a good friend/confidante or more of a casual friend?

If the latter, I'd just cancel with one of the excellent suggested messages.

But if they are a proper friend, I'd be inclined to explain how you are feeling and suggest cancelling going out but invite her over for a takeaway, a bottle of wine and much-needed chat.