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Family visit nightmare

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Twinkletwo · 13/01/2024 14:51

Where to start. Just need to vent really!
We are abroad visiting DH’s mother which went well until his DB arrived as well, and the atmosphere changed drastically. BIL apparently has a habit of wallowing in self pity, which happened again and somehow this set off DH and they started fighting (mainly words but there were a few punches too). The atmosphere is horrible and they keep going. BIL is shouting, DH sneering and egging him on though I didn’t understand everything they were saying. I feel sorry for my MIL too because they are ignoring her and behaving like absolute dicks. I have told DH that I will look for a hotel if this does not end though I am not feeling very comfortable leaving on my own.
DH is usually super calm and it takes a lot to get him angry, and I have never seen such a behaviour change before. To be fair it’s his brother who seems to reignite the argument but DH isn’t helping it by provoking him more and more. I’m not staying here if this continues on. Not sure what I am expecting to hear but I just needed to vent because they are impossible to talk to.

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 13/01/2024 14:56

Book the hotel. Take your MIL with you. Tell DH you are incredibly disappointed in him. Tell BIL to fuck off.

Tilllly · 13/01/2024 14:57

Is it about something specific or just general?

I think if you leave for a hotel, you should take DH with you, or you're giving ammunition to BIL

Twinkletwo · 13/01/2024 15:10

Something specific. BIL was talking about DH being the favourite and that he himself had always been the scapegoat, and that he never had the same chances in life. DH is having none of it but is being cruel. Both are behaving like idiots.
Yes I might book it

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ZekeZeke · 13/01/2024 15:19

They had a physical altercation? Punches were thrown?
I would have left there and then. I hope no children witnessed this.

Tilllly · 13/01/2024 17:04

Twinkletwo · 13/01/2024 15:10

Something specific. BIL was talking about DH being the favourite and that he himself had always been the scapegoat, and that he never had the same chances in life. DH is having none of it but is being cruel. Both are behaving like idiots.
Yes I might book it

Sounds a bit pathetic from a grown man

And if there's some merit, it's a conversation to have with his parents, not your DH

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