I have no friends

[Awsmpssm]

Im 25. I moved to the UK around a year ago And all I’ve done is sit at home and take care of my baby. I don’t know anyone here and I have no friends. My husband goes out to see his friends or they hang out in the driveway but all I do is sit at home. Of course, occasionally my friends from back home come to visit but I would only see them for dinner or brunch.

I can’t find any group activities to do here and I can’t really leave my baby alone at home.

Have you tried baby groups? There will be other mums in the same position. X

Try mother and toddler groups, also why are you always at home ..go out and explore...go shopping, parks...enjoy your time out with your kid, staying home all the time can be boring and depressing.

Have a look on a local Facebook group to see what’s going on.
Sometimes churches offer messy play, where you can meet other mum’s, no need to be religious.
Is there a local health centre or GP surgery, as they will know what’s going on locally.

Yes, go to groups with your baby, try a few until you find the ones which have some SAHM (some are mainly childminders and nannies). The paid ones will often let you do a trial first. When I moved to a new area, I made a lot of friends that way and sit next to the someone who looks about your age and isn't chatting to anyone else.

Do your husband's friends have wives/girlfriends? If so, as them to come round as couples for something to eat.

Go to baby groups, start swimming lessons, get membership to something like a zoo/animal park. You should find some Mum friends that way

Why are your husbands friends hanging around on the driveway? Don't they go out? Or go into each others houses?

Check online for local groups, both paid and free. Churches often run baby & toddler groups too and there is no need to be religious- they are often minimal charges or free.

Contact your Health Visitor and tell her you are feeling lonely and can she suggest some groups etc. Some children’s centres still run Nurture groups for new parents.

Also, go for walks, sit in a cafe, browse around the shops etc just to get yourself out of the house. If your baby is crawling see if there is a soft play with a baby area.

Obvious solution seems baby groups, also there are some apps for meeting mums like peanut etc

Can't your husband's friends (and their partners, if they have partners) be your friends, too? You can all hang out together. If your husband likes them, I'm sure you will like them, too.

Also, your husband will of course take care of his child if you want to go out and socialize on your own.

get a job and find some childcare for baby. Honestly, it will save your sanity!

It’s too expensive for us to afford that at this stage.

No, we don’t really like mixing our partners with our friends and neither do our friends :/

Do you have any other app suggestions?

Peanut is an awesome app for making friends with kids in real life xx

I don't quite understand your replies, @Awsmpssm - are you saying none of the suggestions people have made are possible for you?

Have a look on your local library's website to see what free activities they offer for parents and children? They would likely have details on other free baby groups in your area, if you pop in.

Also ask on the NextDoor app and any Facebook group for your local area. There is stuff out there, but you have to make a bit of effort.

No, of course everyone was really helpful. I downloaded the peanut app and I love it and I’m going to try the baby groups and see what we have here. I appreciate all the help thank you very much.

That's good, @Awsmpssm. Hope you can get out and enjoy yourself.

You local family hub generally has lots of groups on. Most fir free. Rhyme time is often on at your local library. Check your local Facebook page for play groups. Lots are run in church halls for only a couple of pounds. Could you volunteer an evening a week somewhere?