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Cat won't stop growling at/attacking my other cat.

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MademoiselleFrenglish · 12/01/2024 11:17

This'll be a bit long, trying to get all the facts out there.

Two cats, both black and white "Felix" types. Both live at my mum's house (large property in countryside with tons of indoor and outdoor space).

The oldest one (male, mine) has been with us about 6-7 years, the younger one (female, my mum's) arrived about 3 years ago. Both were found in the field behind our house when they were kittens.

The younger one won't stop attacking the older one, she won't leave him alone, growls at him when he's on the other side of the window waiting to come in, goes for him if he walks into a room. For some reason, the older one isn't defending himself.

When people are around to see the attacks, we throw water on the younger one (loud noises have no effect) who stops, but then will start again later that day/a few days later.

My cat (older one) has obvious injuries, the biggest (so far) being bad bites on his ears and one ear now has quite a few bald spots.

They will also happily sleep together on my mum's bed/sofa/in the same room. The attacks seem to come out of nowhere.

My cat (older) keeps to himself, is usually asleep somewhere, doesn't seek out the younger one.

There's more than enough room at my mum's. It's a very large house, the part she lives in has 2 bedrooms, 2 lounges, an office, a kitchen, 2 bathrooms, hallways etc and the cats have access to various parts of the rest of the house. The garden is huge and is surrounded by fields, the cats often go off exploring, they're not bound to the property at all.

I have no clue what to do. I don't want it to get worse, I don't want my cat to get even more hurt.

Before anyone asks, I can't take him to my house. He's very much an outdoors cat who doesn't defend himself and my village has a bunch of strays who we can often hear fighting, and my garden is small. He likes being near people and I don't want to leave him home alone all day while I'm at work (I work at the office at my mum's house so am there all day every weekday). Added to this, I rent my house out on Airbnb during the summer months and move into an apartment for 4 months where I won't be able to take him. It makes more sense for him to stay where he is, at my mum's.

A situation that happened this morning and I don't know how best to handle:
They were both asleep on my mum's bed, all fine. My cat came into the office and asked to be let out the window. He sat on the window sill and the younger cat followed, sat there and growled at him through the closed window (very loud wailing growls). What am I supposed to do?

Is there a way to get the younger one to just back off? This has been going on for over a year, on and off. Is it likely to get worse? Any help/advice would be really appreciated!

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ADoggyDogWorld · 12/01/2024 11:26

First of all you need to take the girl cat to the vet to rule out any illness or injury.

Are they both neutered?

Feliway plug ins can help.

Please don't splash/throw water on any cat.

MademoiselleFrenglish · 12/01/2024 11:28

ADoggyDogWorld · 12/01/2024 11:26

First of all you need to take the girl cat to the vet to rule out any illness or injury.

Are they both neutered?

Feliway plug ins can help.

Please don't splash/throw water on any cat.

Yes both are neutered. I'll tell my mum to get her to a vet, is aggression an indicator of illness?

I'll look into the plug-ins as well, thanks.

Trust me, I'd rather not throw water on a cat or have to make loud noises, but it's the only way to separate the younger one from the older one.

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catelynjane · 12/01/2024 11:35

Honestly, if cats are fighting to this extent and nothing medical is going on, it's best all round if one of them is re-homed as neither of them will be happy living the way they are.

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SoRainbowRhythms · 12/01/2024 11:37

I had this situation and we had to rehome the aggressor (gave it 5 years!) because it wasn't fair on the other cat. Sorry OP, not the answer you were likely hoping for but the transformation of the remaining cat was worth it. She's much happier and healthier, and other cat went to a nice home where she rules the roost.

MademoiselleFrenglish · 12/01/2024 11:44

The aggressor isn't my cat, so not really my call. It's such a pity because the grounds are massive, they could very happily stay away from each other. There's even a dog in the mix who ignores them 99% of the time, but cries when they fight! We've always got random cats wandering in and out of the property and there's never an issue. The younger one just seems to hate my older one!

Some things I've thought of that might help?

  • Feed them in different locations
  • Have ordered Feliway spray plug-ins and calming collars
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catelynjane · 12/01/2024 11:46

If my cat was being attacked in the cat you describe I would be finding him a new home, not leaving him to terrorised every day of his life.

catelynjane · 12/01/2024 11:47

catelynjane · 12/01/2024 11:46

If my cat was being attacked in the cat you describe I would be finding him a new home, not leaving him to terrorised every day of his life.

In the way you describe, sorry!

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MademoiselleFrenglish · 12/01/2024 12:03

@catelynjane That's probably not possible, hence me trying to find advice/ways to calm them down. Maybe the Feliway and calming collar is the answer, I'm not sure. But there have got to be options before rehoming a cat that isn't even mine. That's why I'm here.

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Girlwithapple · 12/01/2024 12:53

As this hasn't always been the case and started around a year ago I would definitely second getting the female cat checked at the vets. Cats (and other animals) can sometimes attack other members of their species who are unwell, and they perceive them to be vulnerable. If your vet gives the female a clean bill of health it might then be worth getting the male checked too.

While I don't think cat behaviourists are as widely used as dog behaviourists, it may well be worth getting some professional help.

LenaLamont · 12/01/2024 12:57

How are your cats on Valerian? A coupld of valerian stuffed toys helpsed my brawling cats settle down. We found Feliway dissuser wasn't strong enough.

MademoiselleFrenglish · 12/01/2024 13:04

Noted for getting them checked, mine is due his yearly check up soon anyway so that works out well. Never tried them on valerian, have seen some toys on Amazon so will purchase and see how that goes, thank you!!

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SoRainbowRhythms · 12/01/2024 13:05

Jackson Galaxy has a great Youtube channel and often addresses things like this.

catelynjane · 12/01/2024 14:10

@MademoiselleFrenglish if my cat was being attacked daily or near daily I wouldn't be keeping him in that home.

We have a duty to do what's right by our animals even if it's painful for us.

Your mum's cat was there first so really she should be the one who stays.

MademoiselleFrenglish · 12/01/2024 14:47

catelynjane · 12/01/2024 14:10

@MademoiselleFrenglish if my cat was being attacked daily or near daily I wouldn't be keeping him in that home.

We have a duty to do what's right by our animals even if it's painful for us.

Your mum's cat was there first so really she should be the one who stays.

No, my cat was there first. Mine is the older male. The aggressor is my mother's cat, not mine, I have no say as to whether or not she's rehomed.

But regardless, it seems a drastic solution when there are most likely plenty of other things to try first, which is what I'm doing after receiving advice here.

Rehoming is a last case scenario and not my decision, also not something I would ask of anyone else.

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catelynjane · 12/01/2024 14:55

Ah sorry, I got ages mixed up.

Of course it's your decision and obviously you should try everything else first, but imo re-homing should always be seen as an option when an animal is being hurt and attacked on a regular basis.

We have multiple cats and if one was being beaten up and attacked I would want them to go and live somewhere where they were free from all that, even if it upset me to do so.

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