Who has taken my £50 note?

[Stripperyone]

For some time, whenever I got a £50 note in my pay I would keep it. I saw them as a little 'good luck' thing and would keep them safe.

When I moved into the house I am in now, about three years ago I put three of them on a shelf with some little artifacts and sentimental value things.

I had a lodger for a long time, he was an ex customer who I knew well. He moved out recently.

I have a DP who visited often as well. Both were aware of these £50 notes. Both have always seemed trustworthy. Lodger used to clean for me (I have back problems) and would be in rooms unattended while he did so. DP has slept in my bedroom while I've been working. I've never had anyone else in my bedroom unattended. I've never had anything else go missing or had any reason given to not trust either of these people.

My sister mentioned that she was going to the bank tomorrow and I asked her if she'd take the £50 notes and change them for new ones. I went to get them, and there's only 2.

One is missing.

Is there a way I could ascertain which of the two people is more likely to have taken it? My gut feeling is on one of them more so than the other but I could be being completely unfair.

There's also the possibility that one's blown/fallen off and is somewhere else or has gone up the vacuum cleaner or such... I am going to do a thorough look later on tonight.

I don't think you can, actually.

But find a new home for them and don't tell either.

I knew my previous relationship was over when I discovered my tin had been broken into and my ex tried to blame my best friend of 15yrs

I knew in that moment there was no going back, the absolute certainty that I didn’t believe my bf would have done that… well that’s how you’re supposed to feel about your partner

Honestly, how realistic is is that it’s been knocked/fallen behind the shelf etc?

Unless you go back in time and install a camera I can't see how you can know for sure.

I think keeping them on public view like that on a shelf for a long time is a strange thing to do. Why? With all different people coming and going and time passing.

I'd break up with my OH if I even had the shadow of a doubt as to his integrity.

That said, the cunt nicked my strawberry yoghurt this morning.

Impossible to know what happened to it. But if you even suspect your partner then you might want to reconsider your relationship - why stay with someone if you don't totally trust them?

I don't know why you needed to make them aware of the money, you could have hidden them in a secure spot out of view not just to hide from people you know but in case you were burgled.

You won't know who took it so just see it as a lesson learnt for having money out on display.

I would probably find a better hiding place - maybe keep it in your bedroom or somewhere where regular house guests won't see it. Definitely wouldn't keep that amount of money on show even in my home.

Tell dp you will be confronting the lodger... His face will tell all. Many years ago I had a large amount taken. Dp persuaded me it was ds... Years later the penny dropped...

I would confront both people, once you have made certain the £50 hasn't fallen down the back or been hoovered up. I'd be surprised if either had stolen the money, if it was obviously part of some kind of display. £50 notes aren't good currency to have, most shops don't accept them.

How sure are you that you didn’t lose it when you moved?

For some time, whenever I got a £50 note in my pay I would keep it. I saw them as a little 'good luck' thing and would keep them safe.

Proof that it’s very unlucky to be superstitious.

I assume the shelf is in your bedroom as you said DP would be the only one in there unattended . You only noticed one was missing when you went to pick them up today , so it could have disappeared any time in the last three years ! Never had a tradesman round , friend , children in all that time ? Is your toilet upstairs ?

I once had a work colleague who was buying small gold & silver items at the local auction whenever she could afford it, and squirreling them away instead of paying into a pension She'd done it for years. Like a fool, she told people she was doing it. While she was away one weekend, her newish lodger did a moonlight flit and disappeared, complete with all the gold (£30k of it), and her collection of silver cutlery.

That's very sad @bendypines . People can be so bloody awful can't they
@butterpuffed I'd say anytime in the last year as I've dusted, rearranged things etc and I thik I would have noticed. No tradesmen upstairs unattended ever. Loo is upstairs yes, I guess when I've had friends over someone could have spotted the notes-thing is that would be quite difficult I think. The shelf is in an alcove behind my bed and my bedroom is dark-because of the house having a weird roof it is impossible to put a main light in there, and there's a lot of stuff on my shelf, It's hard to explain but you'd need to clamber over my bed to look at the shelf properly. Seems unlikely.

@MaggieNextDoor I have had a good look now and definitely not there. I've heard LOADS of people say that £50 notes aren't accepted in shops but I've had a lot of them and never had a problem, ever! Worst I had is someone at a festival say 'Ohh a £50 note!' that was it.

@GeckoEcho well a £50 note is one thing but I'd definitely LTB over my favourite yogurt