Dressing for Dinner

[thebabessavedme]

I have spent this afternoon watching Saltburn. Are there really still people who 'dress' for dinner every night? I have been to more than my fair share of 'black tie' dinners, always nice occasions in interesting places, generally business related. Its quite nice to dress up a few times a year but every night? What a total ball ache that would be. I can't believe that many people dress for dinner these days, unless you know different?

FINGERS FOR PUDDING

”Dressing for dinner” refers to wearing black tie for dinner in your own home, every night. Obviously no one has done that since about the 1930s.

When I went round Chatsworth, I think it said the last Duke and Duchess of Devonshire always did. That would be this century.

My grandparents did. My mum found it quite a culture shock. It was in Africa and she remembers being told off for not wearing stockings for dinner with her dress in the middle of summer.

My grandparents did too but then they were born in 1899! Stopped in the early 1940s like most people I believe when the availability of domestic staff plummeted.

I know a family who live (in a very small flat) in the family pile. No way would they d4d unless it was a special occasion and they had to use the "big house" for some do.

@DesuOwl And there was I wondering how he got a clean dress shirt everyday!

If I've been in my PJs all day, I would go and change into normal clothes for dinner. Or if it's a special occasion dinner at home.

If you are still in your pyjamas isn’t that called “getting dressed”

I was sure it must have been a prosthetic but I read that it was confirmed that was all Barry!

Good grief, I haven't seen a penis like that on screen since Fassbender in Shame. Anyone remember that? 😂

Line of the year. Poor girl 😄

Fuck the dinner. I’d be rushing to get undressed if that was on offer.
Make a meal of that.
😉😁😁😁

I am 100% going to watch Saltburn now after you've said all that about the cock

I could do with seeing a nice cock 🐓

One set of my grandparents used to dress for dinner before the war, apparently. It ended up that quite a lot of their conversation referenced “before the war”
I don't know anyone who does that every day.

Barry Keoghan does have a nice physique. I read somewhere that they modelled the body of the Minotaur statue after his body.

It's a biggun.

Yes, weekends we tend to and expect a standard of dress from our children too.
Mid week suppers unless we have friends over is more causal. We are well dressed every day.

We would also change for dinner for birthdays, special occasions and Christmas of course and every holiday and weekend break.

That you Crumbs? We've missed you!

Honestly though, god bless Barry. I'd have huge respect for a less well endowed man doing that dance scene!

I've just rewatched it (not just for the cock) and it really is a good film dialogue-wise and for the observation of a dying breed of poshos,

@DesuOwl I just loved the way it 'bounced about' . How ever, it does not answer my question. Are there still people in this world who get dressed up in formal wear for dinner

So you actually change clothes for dinner at the weekend? Black tie or just smarter / nicer?

Jackets and dresses so not full black tie but certainly dressed for dinner. We play music and enjoy some pre dinner drinks - yes.

@DesuOwl lol at is that you Crumbs, it does sound like the sort of thing she'd say

It doesn’t usually mean black tie now, in quite a lot of posh houses wot I have stayed in, people change for dinner, which mostly consists of a different version of the same thing for blokes (with the odd rakish smoking jacket) and something slightly smarter for women.

I think it’s there as an acknowledgment that dinner is the main event of the day, in which everyone needs to make an effort to be entertaining. (Plus proof you’d had a bath.)

I don’t think anyone I know does this everyday, but quite often.

I have no idea who on earth crumbs is??

When I was a kid we would be expected to wash and "get changed" before dinner. But that was because I grew up on a farm so my mum and dad (and us at the weekends) would be in grubby farm clothes during the day.

My mum also used to make us chande out of our school uniform and in to different clothes (but I think that was more about preserving them from food spills or creases).

I still change when I get in now, but it tends to be out of smarter work clothes and in to jeans and a top (jumper in the winter and a t short/vest in the summer) rather than smart dinner clothes.