I had a thread sometime last year about a woman who cut me off for no reason at all that I could think of. It really upset me at the time because I liked her very much, thought it was mutual, and thought we were well on the way to becoming friends. I spent weeks trying really hard to think what I could possibly have done.
But, when all was said and done, I'd only known her for about 10 months so I chalked it up to "one of those things". I haven't heard directly from her since but we volunteer for the same organisation so I know that she's doing regular duties, and we are on the same WhatsApp outreach group (again, connected to this charity).
This morning I had a phone call with another woman who works for the same charity. I knew that she and the woman who cut me off were good friends, so I asked her how she (woman who cut me off) was. This morning's woman started crying and eventually was able to tell me that the exact same thing had happened to her. But in her case, they'd been friends for nearly 5 years. Like me, this morning's lady couldn't think of a single thing she'd done - when she messaged to ask, cutting-off woman blocked her. There was also an incident where they happened to meet at the centre where we volunteer, and when this morning's woman said hello to cutting-off woman, cutting-off woman turned her back on her.
This morning's woman was so upset over the whole situation so I told her that, since more or less same thing had happened to me, it wasn't her, it was the other woman.
Anyway, I'm really curious as to why someone would behave like this. I completely get people growing apart or falling out etc, but in neither instance was this the case. Does anyone have any theories as to what could be going through cutting-off woman's mind?! I know that's a big ask, but perhaps you've experienced similar behaviour or have some understanding of personality types? Or something! I've copied and pasted my opening post from my original thread below. Many thanks for any insights and apologies for the length!
Opening post from other thread:
"Some time last year I met a woman at a volunteering activity. We hit it off and quickly became friends.
Since we met we've done volunteering duties together, we've met for coffee, for lunch, for dinner (sometimes alone, sometimes with other friends). In between meetings we've exchanged messages fairly frequently and have discovered we have a lot in common.
So mid April I sent her a message - very normal kind of message for us, asking what she'd been up to and catching up on what's been happening etc. Didn't hear anything for a few days but that's been fairly normal too.
Sent her another message three or four days after that, asking how she was. No reply so after a week I just messaged saying I hoped she was ok, but if not was there something I could do.
Again I didn't hear anything for a week and then got a short message saying "I'm ok thanks". I replied saying I was pleased to hear that and had I done something to upset her?
That was last week. I haven't heard anything and I know I asked "now what?" in my thread title, but I won't message again. I've clearly done something to really upset or anger her - but I honestly have absolutely no idea what it can be. For context, we're in our 50's."