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07/01/2024 13:45
It seems to be the most divisive thing in life and I've seen it cause not just differences but huge frictions, and its sad to see. I'm wondering if family relationships and friendships are always a bit doomed, or does it come back around again. I'd be particularly interested in hearing from those over 55 -parents or not, who can tell how things go when the children grow up.
In the past few weeks over the Christmas period, its the one thing that keeps coming up. I live near my hometown and have 2 sisters and 2 SIL, all pretty close and aged between late 30s and 50. Between them and my old friends these are the things I've heard:
- my family offer no support, they arrange meet ups that don't suit my children and then complain when I cant go
- everyone I know is a mother now and I have no one to socialise with, I feel completely abandoned and forgotten
- my sister has plenty money, she has a good job so why can't she afford this family holiday, she is complaining that she has to pay for 2 kids and I don't, it can't possibly cost that much, she earns 10k more than me!
- when I said I was exhausted and stressed my sister told me I should have thought of that before having children.
- my sister is so busy and tired all the time, I feel awful for her but really miss the life we used to have. She is never available to me when I want a chat, she never rings me anymore either.
- if i wanted to spend the day hanging around with kids, I'd have had my own. If she wants to meet me, she can make the time but I've no intention of sitting in her kitchen while a toddler pulls at her.
- why can't she organise this herself, she has nothing else to do all day. I'm the one with the kids.