Friendships

[Ladywinesalot]

I’m struggling.

Im F mid 40’s, married, with teen DC and I work full time.

im really struggling to connect and enjoy my friendships, whether they be 20 year old friendships or new one.

Everyone is irritating me with their constant selfish self pitying moaning.

I try my best to hide it (and must do because the moaning doesn’t stop) but im losing my patience and don’t want to hide it and want to tell them how lucky they are with their wonderfully easy lives.

At times I feel lonely and at times I’m glad to miss out on girl group nights/trips away.

I feel sad that some of my long friendships are fading but I just can’t invest my time and effort anymore.

Anyone else ever feel like this?

Thinking out loud…

I feel I can’t be myself.
I feel so many friends have just stopped growing/investing in themselves.
Their highlights are holidays and meals out. Which I do enjoy but I want more.

I like to exercise, read, enjoy my career, enjoy my DC’s activities.
if I express myself they look at me like I have 2 heads!

i feel I can’t be myself.

Could you be peri menopausal? I became very irritable during this time and only HRT helped.

Do you know what you think you need, ie new career, hobby, education or learning a new skill. This would give you a challenge and opportunity to meet new people with similar interests.

I feel for you, I long for friends that have abit more to them, I think it's age I also have low tolerance to bullshit since hitting my 40's😂, friendships are hard work.