Can I sort out my life?

[Peter1002345]

I am 42 years old, I am working remotely but got no social life whatsoever. I am still living at home with my parents. I am on roughly 30k a year and got around 20k in savings. I have considered moving but feel I will be more depressed than I am now. I have used dating apps but get no matches whatsoever. Please help me

Of course you can, no one sorts their life out only once anyway, throughout the years there will be 2-3 times at least where you get to a point that you have to sort your life out or re jog things. For what’s it’s worth my life was completely sorted and going great, until it wasn’t, so now I have to sort my own life out….again!

Joins clubs, join the gym, look to find friends or meet-up. Don’t even bother with the dating sites, all they do is bring you down, make you feel like shit and are not even worth the hassle

Do you pay “rent” to your parents? Just wondering if it would be worth moving out, might make you more likely to form a relationship?

Have you been in a relationship before? What do you want to achieve in life?

Hopefully some helpful suggestions will come along :)

Do you have any hobbies that take you out of the house and involve other people? If not, think about trying some new hobbies - try maybe five different ones for variety and give them all some time to develop. Random ideas - a walking group, an evening class, a sport, volunteer somewhere, learn a craft or a skill (DIY course? cookery course?), think of things you are interested in and also new things. Keep an open mind.

Yes of course you can sort out your life!

You're still young! I'd start with getting some new hobbies and getting out meeting people.

I dont mean this nastily, but one thing I would say is that at your age and on your salary, I wonder why you only have 20k saved. I mean that in the way of do you actually already have lots of hobbies/done lots of travelling etc?

yes you can

join a gym that has a community to it
join a running club
friendships will evolve over time

change jobs where you gave colleagues and deal with customers
talk to people

Have you sought help for your depression? I think at 42 it’s time to fly the nest op, and live independently. What do you think? I’d be very concerned if my child still lived at home at 42. What do you do to improve your social life?

Thank you
I never really saved and just spent but have now saved each month. If I moved out I would just be renting as I can’t afford to buy when I live. I did move to a new city and was depressed and moved back. I am going to look for groups and societies to join. I have used Meetup before but everything is in London which is not very convenient. I found a board game group so going to go there and look for more.