@ChaoticBag That's a really interesting question. Myself and DD are both AuDHD for context.
It depends firstly, I think which is more prevalent. So I'd say my Autism is more prevalent than my ADHD. DD is 50/50 in so much as they compete against each other a lot, or she's often non verbal at school, but hyper at home.
On top of that, you have different symptom profiles. My Psychiatrist said that my Autism symptom profile is complex, so I've had to become an expert on this I'm order to understand myself. I've read books before whereby I can identify massively with certain traits the author describes (Laura James for example) but have absolutely don't relate at all with other issues they describe.
It's an interesting point you make about other co morbidities. For example, depression. I have no experience of what I would call real depression. Never been medicated for anxiety, never had a diagnosis of a mental health condition or sigificant / prolonged trauma. To me, any anxiety I have is completely linked to my Autism. So there is definitely an overlap with some Autistic women who perhaps have mental health conditions also, or even just different symptom priolfes. That makes their experience very different to mine.
Age is also a factor, as is environment, fanily bacground and influences. I guess not everyone's experience will ever be the same, although the experiences we share on here, for example, can be very validating and comforting. So many similarities, but also a lot of differences.
I found it really helpful to complete the wheel and see how my spiky profile differed to say, my daughters, even though we are so alike.
As we know, a lot of women question whether they are actually Autistic in the early stages of exploration, due to how women present. I also think a lot of women may initially dismiss Autism and / or ADHD as they don't present in the same way as someone they know of or read about.
With ADHD in particular, because my Autism rules the roost, I don't identify with a lot of ADHD traits. (For example, my Autism largely keeps me organised, but some people with ADHD struggle massively their whole lives with finances) My Autism also helps me concentrate on certain things, but when I'm tired, my attention deficit is very pronounced and collides with sensory issues. I'm also not a very sensory seeking person and hate weighted blankets for example.
Humans are fascinating, and complex creatures and I will forever find Autism and ADHD incredibly interesting.