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Can anyone please help?

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MybabyandI · 05/01/2024 20:37

Is anyone please able to help? I desperately need some advice.

I am in a situation, where I am 12 weeks pregnant. I didn’t know when I met my partner, that he was a recovering alcoholic. Since I fell pregnant, it has all transpired and he has been frequently day drinking. This means I have been coming home from work, to him 3 bottles of wine down, slurring, falling all over the place and if I try to get away from him by going to bed, pushing his way in to my bedroom and slamming doors until the doorframe breaks. I have had to put a lock on my bedroom door, as he barged in my bedroom 12 times the other night, demanding we talk, when he’s incoherent. It’s terrifying, I don’t feel safe, I don’t want him near our baby or myself as things are and I just don’t know where to turn for help. He also owes me money for bills and food this month, which has left my bank account empty.

We live in a privately rented 2 bedroom flat. Previously, the plan was to turn his room in to the baby’s room but now that won’t be the case, even if I am able to have him evicted, I wouldn’t be able to afford the whole rent of £1650pm plus bills etc, or any 2 bedroom place for me and baby, on just my wage. I obviously need a 2 bedroom but just don’t know how I can afford it, now I’m alone.

What do I do? Do I try and stay in this flat and see if the council will help me with half the rent and bills? Am I eligible if I am employed? Or is there any other option? I have lived in Spelthorne borough my whole life but moved to Chertsey (Runnymede borough) in July 2023, as I started a new job, in Addlestone (Surrey borough), in September 2023. Both Surrey and Runnymede council state I must have been living or working in their borough for 3 consecutive years, to be eligible for any help with housing. Should I try Spelthorne instead, having lived there all my life, up until recently? Or does anyone know if, as I am a key worker, if I am eligible for any help that way?

If anyone could please help point me in the right direction, I would be so, so grateful. Desperate right now…thank you..

OP posts:
Plikujyhtg · 05/01/2024 21:27

Bumping for you for someone to bring some better advice. I don't know much about the intricacies and can-do's on social housing, but if he is threatening you/breaking things, call the police and have him removed. It's not good for you and your unborn baby to be under this level of distress.

Do you have any family members / parents who can support with accommodation until you can get on your feet?

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