Impossible to relax with children at home

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I have a 8 and 10 yr old. They argue constaly. We have periods when they play together well and then periods when they absolutely scream and rage at each other and turn the house in to a war zone. Even when we have a few weeks of calm, it’s usually because I have broken my backs to do things that create this calm, at the cost of me not being able to relax.

As a consequence I find it impossible to relax at home. Even when they are getting on I am tense that things could blow up at any moment.

any suggestions.
do others feel this way.
the only time I truly relax is when I am home alone.

I deal with them mainly very Calmly and proactively. Today though after 40 minutes to their raging at each other I have snapped and shouted very loudly at them both. I’m fed up of living in a war zone.

As soon as I’ve done my shop I’m sitting in my bedroom all afternoon watching a film. They can entertain themselves

Divide and Conquer.

Have enough stuff for them to go into their own space and play with their iwn things, on their own. So a tablet each, a set of lego each, when older an xbox each, a TV each etc etc.

I'd they share a room, let one have your room as their space. Or downstairs.

The fights and arguments come when they have to share each others space, and things, and don't want to. If they are not forced to do this through circumstances, then the times they do come together it will be through mutual choice, so more positive.