Residential care failings

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My DC, mid 20s lives in a residential care home due to multiple complex disabilities.

Now, I appreciate this work is not adequately paid, constant staff turnover and really tough work.

That said, this Care Home is horrendous and I am tired of raising concerns to Manager who always has glib answers on the occasions I have got in touch.

It went from Failing to Inadequate to Needing Improvement. This was a statement on outside of building.

I am worrying myself stupid as to what his health will be like when he’s my age if same conditions prevail and the Care (Care - contradiction in terms) Home is unhygienic etc.

It’s got to point where I don’t want to live to witness what will happen. Social worker change and ineffectual.

Also am deaf too (this probably makes post very outing but beyond caring) so getting in contact w anyone is a struggle ie has to be via email.

I don’t want to make myself an enemy of Residential Home. I know it’s hard work but want my DS to be moved somewhere else.

Any advice please. Please be gentle, feeling v v fragile right now.

Have you contacted CQC with your concerns?

I'm assuming your dc has a package of care paid for by continuing health care (or partly), can you contact them and say you have concerns (they should take it very seriously from a safeguarding point of view alone, but also a financial point of view).
Document everything you witness (names, dates and times etc) and report to cqc, chc, local health and social care commission, anyone that will listen (your mp).
You could also ring the gp and say you have health and safeguarding concerns and could they assess your dc. A gp shouldn't refuse a safeguarding concern.

are social services involved? my dc is in a care home, luckily all is good. but if you want him moved, then do it. what area are you in?

Thanks for all the advice.

My DS is in a residential place 70 miles away from me.

I’m going to have to try and get a friend I know to assist with phone calls. My exH and I have zero contact, so no use asking him to back me up. We split up and he didn’t look back, my other kids had once a year (Christmas) date with him but he even dropped that after a couple of years.

I don’t want to detail my concerns w Residential place here and am actually nervous about going over it again as I hope my criticisms when I make them known outside of the care home will affect my DS. It will make it difficult to carry on visiting as I’m sure I’ll be resented and I know for sure no matter what it will be a battle to find him another place.

But I can’t carry on feeling there has to be a better place (and preferably one closer) as he only has me to speak for him.

I also struggle with enormous guilt about placing him in Residential care. I feel I don’t want to face any more days.

could you use the fact that you need him to be nearer home. that way its not about the care/carers but more about him being so far away from family.