What absolutely ridiculous and inconsequential things have put you off a partner?

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I don't mean completely acceptable reasons like poor hygiene, lying, flakiness etc. I mean things that the poor other person could not possibly have anticipated would mean the end of their relationship.

For me it was many years ago when I finally finally got together with a lad I'd had a crush on for about 3 years. About 2 months after we started seeing each other he invited me to his house. Which is where he committed the unforgivable sin of picking up a broom and sweeping the kitchen floor.

That was it. 3 years of obsessing over him and, just like that, a bloody sweeping brush came between us.

I’m 5’7 and went on a date with a guy who told me he was 6 ft but was no more than 2 inches taller than me and he carried on saying he’s definitely 6 foot so I must be the one who’s height is wrong 🤷‍♀️

Ive met a few men through OLD who lie about their height. Do they think we won’t notice?

Oh God I can’t stop laughing

Thank you! I'm so glad this happened to someone else! I've told other people about this and they acted as though this was completely bizarre, but now I know it must be a thing.

I know men lie about their height, but continuing the pretence when someone is standing in front of you and can CLEARLY tell you aren't the height you say, is....weird.

When I was 17 was on a third date with a guy who I had a crush on for months. I had to go home early to babysit my siblings. He followed my bus home on his moped so he could babysit with me (sweet). Every time we stopped at lights he would raise a hand and wave to me through the window. When we arrived I dumped him cos it gave me the ick.

How very Christian of you.

Had a habit of suddenly switching to a baby pitch voice when talking about things he liked, and sent me several "cutesy" selfies of himself per day (pouting, "flirty" side glances etc, and no he was not metrosexual or even well groomed in any way).

Just could not see him as a grown man after a few instances.

First date. He had a nosebleed. That was it!

😂😂

Another one, he opened doors for me. Yeah, I was young.🙄

I have another: texted me back too fast.

He got out of bed straight after sex to take his washing out of the tumble dryer to put away (naked). When I said why don't you leave it until after I've gone, he said it would crease. I got the ick hard and that was the end of that.

I knew a man who had the nickname Beef at university. It rhymed with his last name

'Jump Around' came on the stereo system in the cafe. He jumped around in his chair.

He had a separate pair of slippers just for the bathroom

I’ve ended it with someone for this too. I feel bad as I’d be furious if someone ended it with me for something so ‘trivial’

I went on a date with a guy who took his jacket off and he had the most hideous belt on his jeans with a massive cowboy hat buckle. I literally wanted to run out the pub there and then.

I was dating a guy who always said the word ‘curry’ in a northern accent. (He wasn’t northern). told him it cringed me out but he didn’t realise how badly. After our curry, I finished it with him.

I would not date a man that did not drive. I did it once and felt like his chauffeuer, never again (and he never offered petrol money)

sat in silence apart from making gagging noises at a plate of haddock gratin pasta while the kids ate theirs happily and had to be given plain pasta to stop him ruining my enjoyment of said dish.

Oh and another one - after a successful first date, before the second date the guy messaged me to say “pre warning but my false tooth at the front has fallen out, just so you don’t get a shock”. I didn’t get a shock because I cancelled the date.

Went to a guys flat to watch a film with him and he had a troll collection proudly displayed in a glass cabinet in his living room. Loads of the creepy hairy fuckers just staring at me 👀

First date, we went to get a Chinese takeaway, whilst waiting for our order he bought a pickled egg from the jar on the counter and ate it. I knew then I would never see him again!

He met me for lunch when I was working as a Dental Nurse. I was 10 minutes late as we ran a bit late that morning, and I had to change out of my scrubs before leaving.

He said 'typical woman, always late', when i apologised and explained why i was late.

Over lunch, he proceeded to tell me that he didn't pay his ex child maintenance, as he didn't want to give her money. He bought weekly food shops for her and his child instead.

He also told me that was lazy because I didn’t go to the gym (I was a single parent working 12 hour shifts, and was absolutely exhausted).

I decided he was not a catch.

Edited because I have realised that none of the above is ridiculous or inconsequential!!

I think it was all in the arm movement, and the associated bottom swaying!

OLD, first date. I caught a train to meet him. He knew well in advance what time my train was arriving, yet he turned up late, his hair an absolute mess, in cruddy clothes he'd clearly picked up off the floor and wearing battered old-man slippers with the backs trodden down. I knew at that instant I wasn't seeing him ever again.

But, stupid me, I felt guilty not going ahead with the date. And thought, maybe he's been busy making sure his place is sparkly clean and planning for his date. Maybe he'd scrub up nice with a shower once we got to his? The plan was to go to his for a coffee and chat etc, then go out for a nice meal at a lovely Italian he'd mentioned. Arrived to see his horrifically filthy flat and was double annoyed to see he'd not been planning for our date, but had just been bumming around.

THEN he said, "I can't really be arsed to go out now, we'll just get a chinese and watch some telly". Proceeded to hand me a takeaway menu. I was dressed for a nice restaurant date, but sat with a scruffy bum in his filthy flat eating a very mediocre cheap takeaway on his grubby sofa. All the while he never bothered to shower, brush his hair and continued to wear his horrid slippers. I thought, to myself, just get through this, it won't last forever!

And then he tried to come on to me, for sex! I just froze and looked at him as if to say "what the fuck do you think you're up to!". He got the hint and backed off, where he then just pretended like nothing had happened and carried on chatting about himself, like this could still go somewhere.

Then he dropped me back to the station, and proceeded to kiss me on the lips like we're a couple (I freeze again and don't respond...there's been very little from me except polite general conversation about the weather and shit) and says he's had a wonderful time and can't wait to see me again. He hasn't actually asked if I want to see him again, has just assumed we're now an item.

En route back home he sends me loads of texts, ping ping ping, one after the other, gushing about what a great night we've had, how he really feels we've clicked and when can I come back for another date.

Me: "I think we have different ideas of dates and clicking. I can't do this again" and blocked.

Late
Slippers
Scruffy appearance
Filthy flat
Lazy
Tight
Deluded

One of those alone would have been enough to have the ick, but all together. It was ick x 1000