What absolutely ridiculous and inconsequential things have put you off a partner?

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I don't mean completely acceptable reasons like poor hygiene, lying, flakiness etc. I mean things that the poor other person could not possibly have anticipated would mean the end of their relationship.

For me it was many years ago when I finally finally got together with a lad I'd had a crush on for about 3 years. About 2 months after we started seeing each other he invited me to his house. Which is where he committed the unforgivable sin of picking up a broom and sweeping the kitchen floor.

That was it. 3 years of obsessing over him and, just like that, a bloody sweeping brush came between us.

He used the word ‘rellies’ to refer to his relatives.

Yes, exactly that one! With a cable pattern on it too.

Edited to say this was supposed to be a quote reply from page 2. Ffs.

Dh uses a handkerchief.
So do I.
It's much better for the environment, and you can accidentally leave it in your pockets when you wash your clothes.
Also useful for when children hurt themselves whilst out (obvs when it's not been used....)

I went on a date with an older guy I had a crush on as a late teen, at this point was in my early 20s. Date was going so well, really nice guy. Went to a club and he later took off his jumper to reveal a superman T-shirt. That was it, the end, all the fuzzy butterflies in my tummy flew off and never came back!

Feels mean to mention names but I'm going to.

I dated a Dane but sadly his name was Bent. Which is fine if you live in Denmark but at the time we didn't.

A very nice bloke I met at a wedding but his name was Roland. He rang to ask me out but I said I wasn't ready to date after my recent split.

Shallow? Guilty as charged.

Oh this thread is glorious!

Think I remember your horror! 🤣

I flew over to spend time with a newish man I was seeing who lived in an European city.

He picked me up from the airport and took me to a restaurant for a late lunch around 4pm/5pm, and then asked staff for a doggie bag, which was fine.

I stayed overnight in a hotel and the next day we went out again and he dropped me back to the airport at lunchtime.

Whilst we waited for my flight at a cafe, he unexpectedly took out the plastic containers of the food from the day before and spread them out on the table like a bounty for me to eat, but I wasn’t hungry.

When the waiter told him we couldn’t bring in food from outside, he got really indignant and muttered about a mere waiter daring to tell him what to do.

Turned out he had other enormous flaws too, which I had discovered by the end of the dinner (like spending the whole date moaning about his soon-to-be-ex-wife, and disappearing to the loo when the bill arrived), but after he walked in wearing the cardigan he never had a chance anyway.

He purred and meowed in my ear in a nightclub.

He was never going to be a partner but he was a maybe for the evening. That changed quickly. I’ve never been keen on cats but I now blame all cats for that human experience.

Not mine, but a friend's story from the 1980s. A chap on a blind date asked her out for a drive out to the Dorset coast followed by a walk and a meal. The journey out was horrific because he would drive slowly to conserve fuel. Whenever the road ahead sloped down, he would put the car into neutral so that gravity would propel it rather than fuel. He would not engage the gears until the car was halfway up the next incline. It took ages to get to the coast. When they did get there, the walk was around the car park at Burton Bradstock followed by a polystyrene cup full of prawns and winkles from a mobile food seller. He was clearly very tight-fisted. Her biggest ick was his red wavy hair which he had combed outwards 360 degrees from a central spot, like a crimson rhubarb leaf sticking out on all sides above his face which resembled that of a cabbage patch kid. Friend was stunning, along the lines of Penelope Cruz and well travelled. Whoever thought they would make a good date was bloody stark raving mad!

Oh my GOD! This is so weird. Had they been festering in the bag in his car or had he at least put them in the fridge?

He was also dull as old dishwater (had more fun watching paint dry that some of our dates) but in his defense he was a classic true gentleman who never actually did anything 'wrong'. He was the most sort after man in town to date, all my friends fancied the pants off him.

So when people ask why I dumped the man they proclaimed to be 'the perfect dream man' and I respond with 'hes dull and has a weird relationship with his pet bird' people very much did think it was a 'me' issue.

My dad's called Keith - You are 100% right to steer clear imo 😂

So am I!

Another one when he would see me drive up he would run towards me like an awkward T Rex with a goofy smile on his face

Awww that sounds adorable! And the T Rex walk can be an autistic thing (my ND ds does this).

Trouble is, I read these and instead of agreeing, I just think of my sons! 😥

I remember at college and having a huge crush on a guy who had long hair and wore an Afghan coat (a hangover from hippy fashion - which was no longer in fashion). I loved how different he looked. One day he came in and he'd cut his hair short and wore mainstream clothes and looked...ordinary. Binned

One man, I’d never met him so was online. He’d ring on my mobile right before I was due to walk into work despite me saying I was going into work. He had a really wet, high whiny voice and his surname was Bush (might as well say!). All the combo of this put me right off, if it’d maybe have been one of them I might’ve given him a second chance.

In my 20s and was staying at my parents house sitting and arranged a date when DB turned up at the house too. He arrived in a nice car, was good looking but had longer hair which he flicked back as he walked and had Armani jeans which he deliberately hitched his top above so you could see the label. DM was watching out of the window with DB who was sniggering as he saw him cross the road to meet me. It didn’t last.

There must’ve been others.

I’m not sure. It all looked unappetising but didn’t stink 🤣

It was really weird right? I wasn’t even expecting him to buy me lunch, I was happy to get my own.

He shortened my name.

One I don't think was inconsequential but justified.

I once went on a date with a guy who insisted I come back to his (nothing sexual) to watch a bunch of videos of people getting hurt (like you've been framed but of badly broken bones and stuff etc...) this was BEFORE youtube etc... and he had someone collected them like a mixtape of home movies on VHS.

He also forgot my name and kept calling me something else (I still 20 years later remember his bloody name).

I never went on a second date or spoke to him again.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with using a broom - that's the point though! For some inexplicable reason it just put me right off him. And like I said, nowadays it would be a huge positive.

It's not meant to be a mean thread, it's a thread asking about peccadilloes/quirks etc that would not bother most people (in fact, most of these dumped people are probably happily paired up with people by now).

I'm certain there will be men out there who will be telling the story of how that strange woman (ie me) said this/did that/wore the other etc.

If he's wearing a tricorn hat because he's Aidan Turner in Poldark, I'll forgive him anything.

@Calliopespa

TurquoiseThings:
"He came round my house and put the football on tv as his team were playing. That was bad enough but when his team scored he leapt up off the sofa and shouted "yesss!!!!!" so fucking aggressively and loudly I nearly shat myself. I dumped him a couple of days later."

Calliopespa: "Hasthat happened again with the next guy? And the next? !"

No! It had never happened with any previous guys, and the next guy hated football and I married him (not because of the football)

Took me on a date… to Monkey World

Nope 🙊

Maybe the love of a good woman/man will cure him..or they won't mind.