What absolutely ridiculous and inconsequential things have put you off a partner?

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I don't mean completely acceptable reasons like poor hygiene, lying, flakiness etc. I mean things that the poor other person could not possibly have anticipated would mean the end of their relationship.

For me it was many years ago when I finally finally got together with a lad I'd had a crush on for about 3 years. About 2 months after we started seeing each other he invited me to his house. Which is where he committed the unforgivable sin of picking up a broom and sweeping the kitchen floor.

That was it. 3 years of obsessing over him and, just like that, a bloody sweeping brush came between us.

He wouldn’t take his hat off, even during sex.

He came back from lunch (we worked together) with ketchup on his chin.

Said “I’m going toilet” rather than “to the toilet”. Totally infantile, utterly repulsive.

Another bloke who I otherwise fancied like mad had enormous round, curved thumbnails. Just a bit 🤢 He was so lovely and beautiful, but the thumbnails just made me shudder a bit.

Couldn't drive, couldn't swim. Had hairy shoulders too.

DH sailed very close to the wind on our third date when he arrived in jeans that were flapping around his ankles. Luckily for both of us I decided to forgive him (although the jeans "got lost" when we moved in together)

He used the phrase "cranking it up to the Pepsi Max" and he wasn't being ironic.

A very handsome man told me on a date, very smugly, that he is always nice to waiting staff because "they probably don't have anything nice happening in their lives and I make their day" Instant turn off!

Not the being nice to waiting staff - that's just normal decency - but the clapping himself on the back for something so innocuous, the sense of superiority, and total lack of awareness of how offensive it was to suggest they wouldn't have anything nice happening in their lives.

Dated a guy a few times but he had to go when we went a mexican restsurant he asked for faj-ee-taas. I winced.
He was also wearing a polo neck with a nautical blazer

footwear I did not like…major turn off…people mentioned small hands,I never encountered this but would definitely be a turn off…

Told
Me he brought me
Some
"Crispies " from the shop ... this went further into
"Chippies , doggies , horsies and the final one ... he text me the same " good morning you " every single morning

@BigBessie its the same as jalapeños with a hard J, even if you had been kind enough not to correct yet say it correctly hoping it would sink in they still ignore you !

Long dirty finger nails (that’s one of my personal icks)

I remember finally kissing a man I had fancied for ages and it was like kissing an excitable Labrador (I imagine) put me right off too much slobber

This is terrible but men the same height as me - I’m 5 foot 3

He wore hideous white, baggy Y-fronts that had gone grey with age. I dumped him when I found out it wasn't just one pair, he had a whole drawer full of them. Apparently his mum had bought them for him.

Eeeeew, eeeeew, eeeeew, eeeeew eeeeew Eeeeew!

I also know someone who had these AND his mum had bought them for him but it won’t be him as he was gay.

He collected landrover parts. Although his biggest sin was consistently phoning me for a chat during Have I Got News For You. I dumped him mainly for that.

One had cracked knuckles. Gross. Buy hand cream, or borrow your mum's if you have to (we were 17).

Lego man hair. Exactly like it.

Wore sleeveless T shirts in winter to look all manly, but it meant you could see goosebumps on his very toastracky ribs.

Played lacrosse. I think I just found it weird.

Was called Toby.

Oh god I've thought of a couple more, though never got as far as meeting them because I got the ick before that (just at the point of chatting to them on online dating)

One was getting too clingy, even though I'd never met him, I politely told him on reflection I thought the distance was too far so best we left it - he told me he was going to go in the bath and cry...

Another one was in his full Morris dancing outfit in his profile pic (fine if that's his hobby but not for me), I can't remember if I ignored his message or said no thank you, he then messaged me and asked how he could improve his profile and pulling technique!

It would put me off instantly if they couldn't use the right form of their and there (I know major snob!)

Sure some others will come to mind I thought at the time I should have made a list of them.

Oh dear lord! Second date, we went to a Chinese restaurant and he stoped the waitress to complain about his egg fried rice, then he started to explain to her step by step how you’re supposed to cook it. To the waitress. I nearly died of embarrassment.

I once dumped a boy because I'd had been knocked out and the paramedic asked him what my name was. He misheard and said his own name, which was unisex, let's say Sam. I could hear this conversation and vaguely realised the mistake but couldn't speak. For some reason I was irrationally angry about coming round to this paramedic going "Sam, Sam, can you hear me?" and not being able to correct him.

This guy would spend hours in the
gym which was fine with me but he didn’t eat a lot which I found unusual for a guy who lifts weights and he prided himself on only eating once or twice a day. It also put me off that he didn’t have much variety in his diet and he said he didn’t like going out to eat . He seemed to mostly eat liver, soup and rice.

Also a guy I met online and had spoke to on the phone a few times video called me out the blue one day the week before we were meant to meet. I’d already told him I don’t like video call and didn’t realise he was video calling on WhatsApp since he normally just did voice calls. I was on my period and in my PJs and wasn’t impressed (neither was he probably 😂)when I realised. it put me off him and even though he apologised after I said I wasn’t happy about it I decided to cancel the date.

Also another guy I met online had arranged to have a phone chat one day and he then video called me the day before at 10am on a Sunday morning with no warning. Unless I’ve explicitly agreed, I’m not keen on unexpected video calls with men I’ve not even met in person. When I declined the fall and told him I was still in bed, (which I was) he never called me the next day as arranged. I just ignored him after that.

Also please send these men my way, the floor mopping, leather bookmarks and morris dancing would have me in bed so fast I wouldn't even have time to get the special pillow out the car.

His had thin (height not width) & pointy fingertips

This doesn’t technically count as was just a guy I knew, not a potential, but touches on the delicate appetite “ick” factor mentioned here. He told me if he is feeling “really naughty” and just “ can’t hold back” from having something “bad for the waistline” he goes for a lemon curd low fat yoghurt. 😕Naughty, naughty. 😒I immediately thought I could never fancy a guy so uptight about his tight little waist.

LOL. What's wrong with Frankie & Benny's. It's so authentically Italian 😭🤣

"Pop his custards"

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About 45 years ago, he was a little older than me. He had 3 cars, an everyday runabout, a big American estate car thing for if he needed to move stuff and a Bentley which he described as his Sunday toy, the most fabulous house I've ever been in, you could have put my whole house in his kitchen. A collection of miniature silver, a garden with a private wood, twin sinks in the bathroom, you name it, it was there. He took me to some amazing places, I had a ball. Mother would have had me up the aisle before I could blink. And for just a minute I was tempted. Then I realised that he had false teeth. Game over. I do occasionally wonder what my life would have been like if I hadn't been such a fickle cow