It’s not a long story. We matched on hinge, the dating app. He immediately rang my phone as I gave him my number. I was still expecting work calls and thought it was my boss, but it was him from hinge going “guess who”. Like, we’re adults let’s not play guess who at 9 pm.
Since then, we had a small exchange of words on message. Not much. Work then got very busy for me and I just wasn’t into him so I stopped replying.
He then texted me again out of the blue, asking me how I am and when I was free to meet up. I said I wasn’t free before Xmas. He then said “well I’m busy with work and ideally I’d like to see you before and after Christmas” so I said “I’m very sorry, but unfortunately that just doesn’t work for me and I’m busy before Christmas and I cannot accommodate you in my already made plans with friends and family” his response was nothing. I then hear from him again before Xmas saying “shall we meet up today” (I always need early notice. Like at least a day) so I said “sorry it’s too short notice I have plans” then I hear nothing the following week “I’m free today if you are” me:”no sorry I’m working till 5 then I’ve got a meeting after work” then “happy Xmas . How was your day” me: “was good. Happy Xmas to you too how are you” him: “I’m free today for a drink” me:”again I can’t meet up with such short notice. I’m only free next Tuesday now. But do let me know a bit before if that’s something you want to do” him - ignored me for nearly a week, texts me today saying “I’m free today tbh”
I find this extremely difficult, on one hand I’d be willing to meet up with him. But I get huge red flags that there’s no willingness to accommodate that I need some time before you just drop plans on me.
Have I been slightly unfair towards this man?