Snoring DH - can’t deal with him anymore

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Another night of no sleep. DH snorting away all night. As soon as he gets into bed he falls asleep and the snoring starts. It doesn’t help if I poke him, prod him, even a gentle kick doesn’t stop him. It doesn’t matter if he’s flat on his back or on his side.

DS was away for a week which meant I slept in his bed away from the snoring. It was bliss. I started to feel normal again with some sleep but he’s home now and we don’t have a spare room.

DH is slim, exercises 4 times a week and doesn’t drink or smoke. So why is he snoring? He used to occasionally snore when he had a cold but that was it. For the last few months he’s started snoring every night. He’s 46. His dad is a horrendous snorer so maybe it’s genetic?

DH has tried a spray and nose strips but nothing works. I am going to buy an airbed today and will have to sleep downstairs. I can’t cope with the lack of sleep anymore.

Its a form of hell lying next to someone snorting and snoring all night oblivious to the exhausted person lying next to him.

To clarify this was in 2019, and the 5 to 6 weeks relates to time from initial sleep clinic appt to CPAP. Overnight sleep study was about 4 weeks in.

Was gonna suggest that. I have a helicopter of a husband and our poor son seems to have taken after him :(

Separate rooms changed our lives!

But I feel for you if you don't have a spare room. He needs to go the GP and get sorted.

If he’s healthy and snoring badly then he needs to see a GP.

if he’s refusing to seek further help to ease his partners suffering and your sleep interruption then he needs to be the one that sleeps elsewhere. Does he realise how selfish it is to do the bare minimum.

think if be shunting him out the bed every time he snored until he decided GP was a better option for himself.

So he's on the airbed till he does. His choice.

I used to be a heavy sleeper but have become a light sleeper since sharing a bed with someone who snores. After too many incidents where I have had zero sleep ahead of an important meeting / anticipated social event (and in some cases have had to miss things), I now find it incredibly triggering, and even just a hint of snoring and I’m tense and awake.

It’s a fucking nightmare, and although I know it’s not DP’s ‘fault’ (and he definitely doesn’t want to keep me awake), I feel so angry about it and hate that my life gets completely disrupted by this.

(Found this thread as I’ve had about 5 hours sleep each of the past two nights and looking for threads on the topic!)

You have my sympathy OP…!!!

My husband snores really loudly, and I've put up with it for 10 years of hardly any sleep but 6 months ago I bought myself the Loop sleep earbuds and can't hear a thing now. I can actually sleep through the night and don't even hear him crashing around when he gets up at 5am for work

He can do an online test here https://britishsnoring.co.uk/itests/

The results might encourage him to see a GP / go to a private sleep clinic.

I really value my sleep so would prioritise finding a different sleep arrangement in the meantime.

Mouth taping at night.
Have a Google.
Honestly changed my life.