Is anyone else feeling anxious?

[RedRobyn2021]

I can't shake off this horrible anxious feeling now the festivities have come to an end

DP is going back to work tomorrow, DD is about to start preschool next week (her first childcare setting) and we have been really struggling to conceive after my miscarriage.

I'm still breastfeeding DD at bedtime and I'm think of stopping as I'm hoping it might help with conceiving, but even though she's almost 3 I feel devastated at the prospect.

I so wanted another baby by the time I was 33 and I don't think it is going to happen now.

I feel in such a strange headspace, where I imagine I am a terrible person and everyone hates me. I just want to hide in my house but I can't.

There's nothing to be done about it, it just is what it is, but I can't help feeling bad

I'm the same, DC starts school this year which is already making me feel sad & anxious, been TTC number 2 since July & not been successful yet and I currently have covid so feeling very sorry for myself.

I usually feel quite down after Christmas so it's nothing new for me but it's always a difficult period.

You’re not alone. I worked a few days before Christmas to get all set up but am properly back from MAT leave tomorrow and my 1 year old starts nursery this week. I feel really sad and anxious. I feel like a rubbish employee and a rubbish mum and I just want to hide in my house eating chocolate forever!

Unfortunately a lot of people probably feel the same - back to work; kids go back to school etc.
Please don’t take offence at this but I do think your daughter is a little too old to be breastfed if she is nearly three. She should be able to drink from a normal cup (no lid) when she needs a drink.
I’m sure you will start to feel better about everything soon! 💐

@ReginaPhalange12 sounds like you know exactly how I feel. I'm sorry about your covid, being poorly just makes everything worse, I really hope you feel better soon

Yes, I am. I’m looking for a permanent job after having been self employed for a while. My work has completely dried up and I’m terrified that I’ve become unemployable. I know that there’s a lot of competition for any jobs that come up, and the fact that I can only work part-time hours at the moment doesn’t help me at all. I’ve completely lost all my confidence in myself and my abilities and I don’t quite know how to snap out of it.

The Christmas period gave me a bit of a breather when I didn’t have to worry about any of this, but I’ve just gone into full-blown panic mode this evening. I’ve also been having the ‘everybody hates me‘ thoughts

I have just one DC due to fertility issues, and we are a happy little family, but that probably doesn’t help if you’ve always wanted multiple children. I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through and wish you the best of luck

@blushroses6 good luck for tomorrow, that must be daunting for you, I hope it goes well.

@Serene135 she is not too old to be breastfed, I think you need to try to educate yourself a little better, I hope you don't go around telling women that IRL because it's nonsense

@QueenOfThorns

That does sound hard, I'm sorry. I'm hoping you are pleasantly surprised.

Im terribly anxious and peri/meno

and my mammogram date looming isn’t helping. Im actually terrified.

im a worrier, but never was

I am too actually. I'm oversocialised, had too much crap food and not enough exercise I think.

It will pass for us all.

Thank you @RedRobyn2021 I hope things improve for you soon & 2024 is a lucky year for you

I feel the opposite. I'm happy to get back to a routine.

Yes, I feel anxious. Christmas is like a little bubble and when it pops you feel exposed again. It's normal. Also I think Christmas can distract us a bit until it's time to think of the realities again.

There are a lot of changes in your life too which can be stressful and anxious. And you want to conceive which is out of your hands - this is also stressful.

I felt awful this time of year last year due to the same reasons.

No. I love the time after Christmas and new year when life and routine goes back to normal. Another year to set new goals and see what the future brings.

I'm sure the child doesn't ONLY drink breast milk. There's no point writing "please don't take offence" when you then write something really ill informed.

Don't be silly, I'm sure she's perfectly capable of drinking from a cup when she's wants a drink.

Breastfeeding is much more than that, at 3 my DD used to breastfeed first thing in the morning, at night to settle (we had a choice there between a 5 minute feed or an hour of restlessness), and for comfort sometimes if she'd hurt herself, was upset or not feeling well.

At that age it will still be helping their immune system and gut health, and is well within the biologically normal range to be breastfeeding.