Socialised out introvert. Getting through the evening

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I’m an introvert and we have spent the last 3 days visiting friends/family- straight after having people stay for Xmas. We Just returned home today and my husband has invited his friend, wife and kids over for dinner tonight. I am totally maxed out in terms of socialising after the last few days and really need some down time. It was a 3 hr drive home and we had to get straight on unpacking. And tidying as the friends are coming. We are also out for new year tomorrow. I wasn’t asked about extending the invitation and he asked without consulting me. Not normally a problem but I wish he had asked as I would have known I’d need today to recharge. Anyway they’re on their way so it’s happening.

Any advice from other Introverts on managing to get through a social evening when you’re maxed out. Any hints or tips. I usually manage my schedule to allow for down time. So I can fully enjoy socialising and recharge when needed.

annoyingly I’ll probably end up not going with DH and kids tomorrow eve, as after tonight I’m sure I’ll need an off day even more!

As a side note my Dd is the same. She’s also a bit annoyed we have people coming so we’ve said she can chill out in the spare room watching films and not socialise.

For anyone reading late. I decided alcohol is the answer. Not mega loads but a couple of glasses of wine.

Ah I'm so sorry you feel like this. I realise I'm bad in inviting people without asking my husband, he doesn't mind but I am more sociable than him so your post has made me think to make sure I check with him in future.

Advice is def the booze but not too much or your true feelings might come out and you tell them to go home because you've had enough of faking it 🤣

Also can you take a tiny time out when you put the kids down and say they were unsettled so you had to stay up longer or something? Just a few mins silence on your room or something. And also remember, the idea of it is probably worse than the reality, you might enjoy you self when they arrive. I hope so anyway, and good luck

We have a household rule of being allowed a break from the main room for 10 minutes, once an hour. Try that?

I think in your situation I’d either retire to the bedroom for the duration, or go out (cinema followed by a quiet coffee shop).

Honestly? Take 30 mins out and go and lie down. Or even go to bed with exhaustion/a headache.

I always used to think it was too rude, but if you can't do it, you can't.

Also if you are cook or dishwasher stacker while your husband takes the lead on the entertaining, that could get you a bit of respite.

Long lie in tomorrow, get groceries delivered or send husband for them.

Hi, so they came and we had a nice time. I had fun. However it was full on and the kids were Manic. Since they left my son had a melt down (it was too much for him) and I have had a massive strip too. I’m massively pissed ofF with my husband because both kids and me are shattered and over stimulated because he’s too self involved to understand that after 3 days visiting his family we want some down time.

Ive arranged to go out for coffee with a friend tomorrow and I am sacking of new year for the sake of me and my DS as we have been pushed too far and both need a chill day.

Also- being brutally honest. I stomped on a xmas ornament when I was tidying up. Really immature and pathetic. Kids in bed so didn’t see and I cleared it away. But this is a sure fire demonstration that I needed time out. Next time I’ll just say no to people coming or fake Illness and priories my and my DS’s mental health.