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What should I do? (TRIGGER WARNING - SA)

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unsurebut · 30/12/2023 12:33

This happened a couple of weeks ago and I've been thinking about it ever since. I feel like I need to report it but I don't have any identifying info.

It was one of my close friend's Christmas dinner and I went along with him as a plus one. I was sitting next to a man called Steven (not real name) and he got incredibly drunk on cocktails. He seemed nice enough, was chatty and talking about things like hobbies, etc. Just generally making conversation. I didn't like or dislike him, but he did come across as a little strange, mentioned he didn't have many/any friends and feeling quite isolated and asking advice - not really the type of conversation you have the first time you meet someone and sitting round a table for dinner. Anyway, after a while I realised that he was talking exclusively to me. No problem.

Then we went to the bar where he proceeded to drink more cocktails and started coming on to me, telling me I was 'stunning', 'fit as fuck', etc. Pretty inappropriate. Anyway, he then went on to say that I wasn't to worry because he "likes little kiddies" - exact words. Then he said "if you knew the truth you'd call the police". I was sent reeling. I immediately turned to my friend and repeated what he'd said and my friend shrugged it off saying that he was joking. I said I disagreed entirely, but what could I do?

As further context he was later thrown out of a strip club for inappropriately touching one of the girls, totally creepy man. I can only imagine how drunk he was by then.

Anyway, sorry for the long post! I don't know what to do. I can't report it because I have absolutely no identifying information, other than his first name. I tried asking my friend for his surname and then the name of the company but he's ignored it and if anything happens he would know it's me.

I don't know what to do, but I can't stop thinking about it and it's making me pretty uncomfortable. Please, any advice would be welcomed.

TLDR - creepy man making sexual remarks about children and admitting the police would be called if I knew the truth.

OP posts:
Milkand2sugarsplease · 30/12/2023 23:40

Another one thinking you've done the right thing by reporting what you were told. It's all you can do but at least you know you've not sat on information...

Whether the police do anything is dependant on a number of factors - literally they could do absolutely nothing with it, in which case your DH is wrong and you've done nothing to harm anyone or their reputation. Or, they could investigate and find nothing - again, no harm to his reputation. Or they can investigate and find who knows what - in which case, it's not you this ruined his reputation, he'll have done that all by himself!

sarahc336 · 30/12/2023 23:44

Often the police will have a file on a person and they slowly build a case. They collect info over time. Please report op, just tell them all you know

sarahc336 · 30/12/2023 23:45

Sorry just seen that you have reported it. That's the right thing I'd say, good on you

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